Baby Weight

Dear Jonez, My girlfriend is pregnant but I'm not sure if I want her to keep it. I love my girl very much but right now isn't a good time to bring a child into this world. I haven't been motivated enough to go to work on a regular basis so I've been spending money from my savings. My girl is scared and I console her as much as needed, but am I wrong for thinking she should abort?
-Possible dead beat Dad

Dear PDBD,
It's normal to feel scared during this time. Every future parent question their ability to be a good provider, and a good role model. As well provide their child with things the life they themselves didn't have. I commend you for being there for your girlfriend as you should be. Are you wrong for wanting her to have an abortion, that depends on who you ask, but I will say this, If the possibility of her having a child scared you then as much as it does now then you shouldve used a condom. You may not have been motivated before but you now have a lil life that's going to depend on you 'Dad' so I believe that's enough motivation you'll ever need. Just trust on yourself, keep being there for your girl and everything will be fine. P.S Send me a photo when the baby is born please, I would love to show the world, your pride and joy. -TJ

In my absence...

Im sorry I havent written anything since the 27th but Ive been a VERY BUSY woman. My boyfriend's birthday was yesterday (Sept.30)he turned 23! I wanted it to be something for him to remember forever, and thanks to great execution & great planning it was. At first I was planning a trip to Miami for about 3 days but then I didnt like all the hurricanes and tropical storms that had been occurring so frequently. I only thought of a trip because for my 22nd birthday he took me to Atlantic City for a week and I didnt have to pay for anything! I scratched the trip thing but I still needed something to make up for that. I also had to think of a gift that would blow his mind. Earlier in our relationship he mentioned soemthing about a wallet, so I was like cool, I'll get that. I looked at Louis Vuitton (Wayyyy to damn expensive), Fendi (Just plain ugly), and Gucci (Which was cheaper than louie but too plain) I finally settled on Coach! It took me about two weeks to really decide on if thats what I really wanted to get him. I purchased it at the last minute on my way to pick up the cake. Now about the cake, My plan was to pick up the cake and take it to his granny's house so that his fam could come and get in on the action. Well that didnt go according to plan, I was late waking up (tell you about that in a minute) so I wasn't going to have time to bring the cake back to brooklyn from upper manhattan so I called the restaurant to let them know I was going to bring the cake there. Remember I had to do all this alone and by 7:30 when we had to be at the restaurant. So that my boyfriend wouldn't get suspicious I told him I was going to pick up my dry cleaning, in manhattan, I didnt want him to know I was picking up a cake! The evening turned out so well, he enjoyed the food (Shout out to Mo Bay Uptown) and I enjoyed the drinks. After we had dinner the waiter brought out the cake(pictures soon) While he was eating the cake, I pulled out the coach bag from my purse and his face was so in shock, he couldnt do anything but laugh. I was happy that all the gifts had been giving and it was finally over.
Oh wait, theres more.... On Monday (the day b4 his bday) I gave him a present of all his favorite things, which including cds, bath products and lotions. I also suprised him with 5 delicious cupcakes from ButterCup Bake Shop in manhattan, which said 'Happy Birthday Hakeem love Tristan! I never seen a person jump as high as he did. I was just excited that he loved his gifts! We went to the movies to see Eagle Eye, an extremely good movie, then we went to Cafeteria (a restuarant that stays opened 24/7) He enjoyed that too. We ended up getting back to Brooklyn at 4am, thus the reason I couldn't get up the next day! Even though I had a good time both days, Im more than happy that It's ALL OVER!!!!
~Tristan Jones