Excerise Jim!

Does sex play a part in your emotional attachment to someone? I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine about love & sex. I argued that sex can change your perception of a person, it can bring you closer or do the opposite. He argued that sex can only get better with practice.

Yes sex is one of those things that you have to keep working at, especially with a new love interest because everyone doesn't like the same things but I do think if the sex is good it makes you that more interested in the person. I mean it makes you want to see if your chemistry isn't just limited to the bedroom. I think you should have some sort of connection to a person before you have sex, because that enhances the way you feel about them.

I don't necessarily think sex plays a part in the attachment but I do think it makes a difference. Sex can be just sex between two ppl, but making it more than 'just sex' is the best part of any relationship. Plus what other activity can you actively get involved and have your partner join? (I mean I know there are others but are the THIS fun!)

I’m Ready

After a successful relationship at 17, then a string of broken hearts (lessons learned) maybe I'm more afraid of a relationship being successful than I am of getting hurt. We (woman) are looking for prince charming however its more likely that we’ll find prince ahole first. So what do you actually do when you really find the TYPE of man that you have always been looking for?

I'm an open book, always been. I wear my emotions on my sleeve but I'm no dummy (insider). I try to see the best in everyone, see past their flaws and mistakes, look at the man they are. For years I would see the man they wanted to become and not who they were. You cannot fall in love with who you want them to be,  its impossible. I’ve heard it all before! I look back now and shake my head at my ignorance. I cant put all the blame on them for being who they were to me because I put blinders over my eyes and allowed it. As a woman I needed to set the rules, let a man know how I was going to be treated. I set the pace but even the most vocal and opinionated female can drop the ball.

To answer my own question, When you find the type of man that you’ve been looking for you enjoy it. You put 110% of effort into making the relationship work. I know you may have some reservations about whatever but don't bring those doubts into a new situation. Go into it like its going to work, make sure you use communication. Men cannot read our minds so let them know what your feeling. Since I let go of all the feelings (negative & positive) for Bob I’ve allowed myself to heal completely without even knowing it. I looking forward to my time being spent with Fox.

Yes there's an actual person willing to deal with all my crazy! (Laughing) The more I talk to and get to know him the more I want to know. I recently texted the exes I was still communicating with and ‘cut dem off’. Why do I need to talk frequently with an ex when I know I’m not going back to that situation. Don't get me wrong I have nothing but love for them and wish them the absolutely best but my life is going in a different direction. For the first time in a while, I'm in a good place. I'm uber happy! Did you see that Fox? I have someone who not only supports me, he also encourages me to do better, pushes me, and tells me all the time shit I don't want to hear but need to. I just hope that he keeps this up even after we are out of the honeymoon stage. Now that I’ve acknowledge him to myself, I hope things continue to go as smoothly as they have been. And Fox you’ll start to hear more yes’s when you ask to take me out.

-Jonez aka SexyFace & Sexyfine

What!??

Just when I think I cant be surprised, Coco (My bff) lets the damn Tiger out of the cage! I never thought she would be telling me this but yet she did!

-Jonez

Roger that!

"You cant expect me to think like you, Cuz my life aint like yours!" -T.I.

New VS Old

I think this will always be a dilemma for people moving forward. There will always be that old love who you still love but when yall was together the timing wasnt right, then there's that new love who is doing everything right. However you know your kinda keeping a part of you back from jumping ALL the way in.

I've tried to be as honest as I possibly could because thats just me. I hate being mislead, so I try to be upfront. After Bob, I dated but nothing too serious... Now there may be something that could possibly turn serious but Im not 100% sure I want that. For the record it doesnt have anything to do with an old love only my insecurities about myself. I dont doubt that I can have a full and meaningful relationship but is that what Trist really wants?

Im so focused on the things that Im trying to pursue that Im not sure If I want to pull a man into my madness, even if he is up for the Ride that is ME!

-Jonez