Stupid is as Stupid does.

Im really starting to believe that people are dumb on purpose. That making the right decisions or even the ones that make the most sense are the furthest from their minds. It truly puzzles me when the most obvious and practical choice is there to be made but its, of course, not!

As I get older I tend to be more picky about the people I choose to let into my World, and I think I need to get even more pickier. I applaud diversity and I love when someone doesnt think the same as I do BUT I hate a complainer. There is very little I regret, especially when Im the one who is making the decisions. And how can I regret anything when Im the one 'driving the car'? Im just tired of hearing about the consquences of choices made when you knew beforehand what those conquences included!

Either Change 'it' or shut the eff up!

-Jonez

The New Approach

Now remember the other day, I informed yall about how I was still single (Still loving it) but I was kinda chatting with someone. I was prolly bloggin about something shady he had done but I think I may have judged him prematurely. Lets call him... Bill. Well Bill already told me how much he "wanted me, in every way", yes that kinda freaked me out a lil, but I was like Imma hear him out. He also made it clear that he wanted to 'sample' (<--- Really?) the goodies. After I made it clear that he wouldnt even get a whiff of them, he toned down the over sexual comments.

Today he surprised me by texting me asking about how my day was going. He even said 'goodnight' last night before I went to bed. With me its the little things that count the most. I could care less what or if your even driving, Hell I take the train. Usually when I shut a man down for sex, he leaves me alone! And thats quite alright, then you have the others that will keep telling you what they think you want to hear, etc, but Im getting off topic. Bill isnt in my good graces as of yet, he still has a long way to go but the fact that hes trying makes me smile, takes him off of my $hit list.

-Jonez

Me {vs} You

Now I've never been the most confident person growing up but over the years I've learned to build that up. And during the times when Im not feeling confident at all I fake it! Yup I put my acting skills to the limit. I never had the mentality that I was any better than the next person, we all have our great qualities and some of us just know how to use that to an advantage.

When its me against you, just know that I will always win. Always! Why? Because I know the rules of the game and I can play it better than you. Im straight up and all the way real, and I dont need tricks to prove my point, whatever the point may be. I know for some readers, this will be out of left field but for who this is meant for it will make perfect sense. Sometimes it feels like my kindness is so often taken for a weakness but lets be clear, Im not a weak person. I just dont believe in knocking someone when their down. KARMA IS REAL!

I know I dont look like it but Im a TRUE survivor. I've been thru it all and yet I continue to come out on top. Take a minute to think about why that is, why is it that no matter what type of situation Tristan is put in, she always comes out the winner. Its because I know how to keep my cool. The best advice I have ever received was "Never let them see you sweat", and I havent. Trust me, there have been plenty (!!) of times where I wanted to cry, scream, lash out, etc but I knew all eyes was on me, and if I wouldve cracked they would've gotten the ultimate satisfaction. I cant allow my misery to be the boost your sucky life needs to feel good, Nope! So even if I have to cry my eyes out in the bathroom of work, thats what I'll do but I bet when I walk back into the office, I'll have my nothingeverhappenedsmile.

-Tristan

Just remember when your planning your attack, do your homework thoroughly. It will def save a lot of time and energy in the long run! ;-)

We Jammin' & havin' Fun!!

OMG! Im seriously in love with this series. I know I had written it off as another seriously bad series about New Orleans but I was Wrong! The first episode was terrible, like wtf? But I suffered thru it and viewed the second episode and was hooked! Plus I couldnt get the theme song out of my head (Down' in the Treme')

The characters are so well drawn out, that Im kinda upset that there arent anymore episodes for me to watch, there were only 10. Im that much more interested in New Orleans culture and the after math effect of Hurricane Katrina. Oh Im sorry, thats what the focus of the series is, Hurricane Katrina. Watch the show!!! I found myself, laughing and most times crying at not only the storyline but the destruction of the culture due to the Hurricane.

I've lived in Baltimore for a long time and the thought of my city being destroyed breaks my heart. Im def going to be visiting the 904, and getting to learn a lot more about it. Im not just now trying to do something because I saw a tv show, NO be clear, I always follow my heart and now its leading me there!

-Jonezy

Umm No, Thats a lie!

So Im still single but Ive been chatting casually to this guy I knew growing up. So I guess because we semi grew up together he feels like he already knows me and we dont need to reacquaint ourselves again. Honestly I dont know what homeboy is thinking, but anyway! I went to his house last night, just to chill and to get out of my own house. This was my second time being there, but the first time I was there for less than ten minutes (I was running late to work.) Ok so now Im looking around, taking a much more interest in his apartment, the furniture and the photos of his (ex?) girlfriend. Ummmm Im no rocket scientist but if you and your ex is no longer together then why are there several photos of her? So I went to use the bathroom and what do I find? A bag of pads! Now as far as I know, men dont get periods. So of course I ask, his response "My ex left them and I just never threw them out."

Now of course Im like yup he's a liar and he's prolly still boning his ex. {FYI, Its quite alright to be boning your ex, or other ppl for that matter, just BE REAL WITH ME!!} Im not his girlfriend and neither was I trying to be. I was trying to get to know him to enjoy his company. As Im holding my balance, while peeing, I look up on the door and see... PANTIES!! Now once again, as far as I know men dont wear panties. Well some do but the ones I date shouldn't! So When I leave the bathroom I asked him, "Ayyo, do you know there are panties on your bathroom door?", he says "They must've gotten mixed in with the wash." The look on my face says "UMM No, That's a lie!"

Why is it that a man just cant keep it real with a female? I went home shortly after the incident but it just made me realize why Im NOT DATING!!

-Jonez

Skydiving is the NEW Black!

So while at work we was talking about the bucketlist. (A movie where two older men are dying of cancer however they write down all the things they want to do before they die) Well One of my entries on my bucketlist is to skydive! I wanted to do it for Christmas (In LA) but the instructor was sick but I have yet to go back. The convo at work made me realize that life is short and I want to live mine to the fullest.

So yes, I will be skydiving sometime in the next few weeks while the weather is nice. And please dont worry about me or tell me I could die! IF u think about it, if its meant to be it will happen regardless.

-Jonezy

Venice oh Venice!

So moving to Venice, Italy might be harder than I thought but not impossible. Theres all sorts of laws and ish, that come along with wanting to move permanently to another country. I mean yea it would be 100 times more convenient if I was marrying an Italian man but thats not happening... well not right now it isnt. Now dont get it twisted, Im still going to be travelling there in the next coming months but will I be moving there? I still have much of the US to see, so my decision is still to be determined. However there is always the possibility of studying abroad!

~Jonez

Im moving... (Again)

Venice, Italy... How've I've dreamed about you so! Isnt she a Beauty?!!

No, Thank you!

I know I dont post like I used to or even like I should but thats because I most times think nobody reads my ish. I mean I know of the people who do browse thru and find it enertaining but at times Im just like whatever! And then it happens!, I get a crazy compliment in my inbox (Gmail) and it just makes what I do worth it. Writing is one of my many forms of expression but its the one Im most known for, and I LOVE IT! I could possibly sit at home, preferrably by a fireplace, and create in my mind, then on paper.

Sometimes getting a compliment on what you do best, makes all the craziness you go thru worth it. I find myself laughing at the things ppl do because it just gives me more to write about. Yes, I can think of a million situations but to see something and base what Im writing on that, priceless. Plus when a person sees HOW you see them, it makes them think twice about their naughty behavior. And isnt that what writing/blogging all about? Creating a new perspective?!?

Tristan J

Confessions

Sometimes I feel like the main character in "Confessions of a Shopaholic", not because of my love of shopping but because I can give better advice to others than to myself. Of course it was ironic, how she was able to instruct readers how to save money or use it to its full maximum but yet she couldnt/wouldnt do the very same for herself. I've been trying to trick myself into doing the same things that I would tell a friend or even a reader to do but sometimes, no most of the times I do the opposite. THEN Im left holding the bag, like really Jonez?!?

My new improved technique is to pay everything that I need to pay the day I get paid. This technique is of course, based on if I FEEL like getting out of the bed long enough to actually go outside and do what needs to be done. {SMH} Not to mention, Im great at making budgets for my friends! Hell Im great at making them for myself, its the putting them into action that lacks motivation on my part. I do hope though, I wont get outed like the main character of "Confessions of a Shopaholic". The bill collector made a huge spectacle of her on national television!

-Jonez

How to make it in America.

"Money comes and goes, Tee shirts comes and goes but that's life!
You gotta roll with the effin punches" -Kid Cudi in How to make it in America.

The crazy thing is thats so very true. If life was broken down into how to succeed, that would be the prime example of advice. You have to roll with the punches! No matter what obstacles you're faced with 'Just roll with them'.

Jonez

she got a mean shoe GAME!

I want these!

-Jonez

GONE!

Ok, so the roommate from Hell!, is gone. She moved completely out this afternoon and took all of her things with her. It feels like a weight is lifted off of my shoulders. It sucks that a friendship is NOW dead but I mean I just have to take it as a lesson learned like my blog manager Amilcar said. So now I have my house back to myself, which feels a lil weird but comfty.

Oh and NO I dont want another roommate!

-Jonezy

Roommate from Hell!

So today I got a phone call from the cops. Seems like my roommate call them on me because I changed the locks. I had already gave PLENTY of warning of what was going to be done. I guess she just was calling my bluff. I hate the fact that some people take my kindness for a weakness, I assure you, its not. I've been more than nice about the living arrangements but when she said she was leaving in 58 days, which would've amounted to the date June 1, I was thrilled. I would finally be getting my house back, my peace of mind back.

A few days before the 1st, I texted her to find out what her plans were. I didnt/dont really care what happens after she left my house but I wanted to know that she was indeed still leaving. Really long story short, she didnt move any of her things by today so I locked the bottom lock. And No she doesnt have a key. I feel like she had 6 weeks to get her things together but she waits until today to actually want to do something? I wouldn't have locked the door If I'd known she was coming. I would have def took today off because obviously I dont trust her in my home. She failed to call or even text me letting me know when she would be coming.

As an adult I feel there are things that you should know to do. If we've already establish a date that you would be leaving why is it that you fail to honor that? And if there was some reason as to why you couldnt leave when you was supposed to, isnt it a good idea to communicate that? So she's supposed to be coming tomorrow to get her things out for good. I thinkin I should have the cops on stand by just to make sure everything goes smoothly. I'll just be happy when I no LONGER have to deal with this.

-Jonez

P.S. Friendship R.I.P

Updates!

So I know I havent written anything of substance in a while. (It seems like that is always my opening sentence.) So Im not going to apologize but just move on in hopes that you will forgive me like always.

My weekends (Sundays) have been filled with going to visit my lil brother for the past ummm two months so I find myself trying to recoup from that visit. Its VERY taxing on me mentally and physically, so I usually use Mondays (Day off)to rest and regain some sort of energy. For some people going every weekend gets to be too much but its too long of a wait if I miss a Sunday. For the time being I deal with it, plus it means a lot to him that he gets visits.

If Im not at work, Im sleep! As sad as that may sound, its very true. I spend so much time at work, that my friends have started calling me a workaholic but what can I do? I like the lifestyle I live, plus Im still furniture shopping as well as planning for future vacation spots. Unlike you, I dont have a rich daddy, and even if I did, I KNOW my dad would be a cheapy!!

Im working on getting my act (More to come) together!

-Jonez