Mardi Gras 2011

So Yall had to know this was coming?! As much as I talk about New Orleans, you had to have guessed that I would be travelling there in the coming months. I mean research can only do so much until you feel like you know the city, so I have to put my {vast} knowledge of the city to the test.

Gosh, its like I can taste the food and hear the music. Yup, I do think I might be going crazy but I dont care. I have immersed myself so deep into the culture that I think its taken over my senses. I was supposed to be going to the N.O. with my coworkers but I cant say for sure thats going to happen. You know I love being solo so its only befitting that I either go alone or mainly stay to myself. Only time will tell what will happen.

-Tristan

Never mix Biz with friendship

A hard lesson I learned was NOT to be friends with coworkers. Its hard for people to separate work with personal feelings. I've had good friendships come out of being a coworker but the older I get the more I realize that ish is for the birds. Im tired of being myself and ppl not knowing how to deal with me. I mean yes Im an acquired taste but you have to accept the good with the bad. Especially if Im doing my part in accepting the things (Sometime the stupid as hell things)that you do. I've been holding back sooo much that I could say because we are/were friends. Now that I no longer consider you a friend, you'll just go back to being that nameless, non existent being.

Good luck!

Jonez

My Mister

Well I made a promise to a friend of mine that I would never write about him on my blog but there are things that I really want to get out into the open. I've recently spoken to him about airing out his laundry and surprisingly he has given me the ok. I just think he wants to know my deepest darkest secret about how Im actually really feeling about him. Now since he is so eager to read, Im going to take that much longer getting out EVERYTHING. Plus I dont string him along in person BUT I can on here!! (laughing)

Obviously I never use people's real name just because, so for my 'baby' Imma call you MyD, pronounced 'Mighty'. So let me give yall a lil background on MyD, we met through a mutual friend last summer and just clicked. (He's a leo) We talked and hung out through the summer into the fall but kinda lost touch because he went back to school and I was planning for the move to LA. Plus I kinda got mad at him for something and made a very rude comment he just couldnt move on from. So after Sept, we really didnt talk as much except for hi and bye. It wasnt until pretty recent, that we both hit each other up and just was ready for a fresh start with each other.

Now this is supposed to be the part where Im extremely honest about how I feel but Imma hold off on that til later. However I will say, Im feeling MyD, hes smart, attractive, athletic, has goals, but mostly he isnt afraid to put me in check when necessary. And I respect him because of it! Yes Im very smitten by MyD and Im not afraid to let him know. Well I kinda am thats why Im bloggin it.

Way to go Miss Jonez!

(Think)

If you dont trust the person you are with, then why are you with them?

Jonez

"Timer"

So I was watching a movie last night name "Timer" and It was a really good watch. Its basically about taking out all the guesswork of looking for your soul mate. You get a timer embedded into your wrist and it will show a countdown of when your going to meet the person you are meant to be with. Your soul mate will have the same countdown as you obviously. If something like that was invented I would def sign up for it! Why? Because it takes out all of the work of dating the wrong guys, and matches you with "your one". To some people dating is fun and it should be but when Im ready to settle down with my one, I want a guarantee that its the right one!

If you had a choice of knowing who your soul mate was would YOU want to know?

-T.Jonez

Ugh!

Im feeling so angry with my father! I may even be past angry, Im more hurt than anything to be honest. Dad makes up all these excuses as to why he hasnt did this or that instead of saying, my bad that I wasnt there when you needed me but Im here now. Sometimes I feel like Im the parent and he's the child and I have to teach him how to treat me. I have to teach him how this thing (father-daughter relationship) is going to go. He has to really understand its not going to be im calling and calling you and you dont get back to me. Im sick of hearing Im busy at work, ok so call when you get off work. Then its well your step mother is sick, ok I got it. However my stepmother is 'so sick' yet she finds the time to CALL me and see how (insert problem) is being handled so something isnt adding up. Im not going to keep callin anyone! Parent or not, Im not going to continue to do all the work and you sit back relaxing, nope not going to work.

From today on, until my father calls and apologizes for his behavior, we arent going to talk. As much as I have grown up and became an adult, Dad its time for you to do the same. Dont let your pride take over and you miss out on my life because you dont know how to admit when your wrong.

-Jonez

Wake up!

Isnt there a quote similar to 'God bless the woman who has her own'? I think thats the best piece of advice that anyone could've given to me. However like many people my age I had to go thru the fire before I realized I was burned. So many of my friends are living with their significant others and for most of them, not only will the relationship not work out but they'll prolly end up homeless. People you have to remember that anything that can go wrong will go wrong so protect yourself!! Sometimes you have to be selfish and put urself first in a relationship. I do wish that I could give the knowledge I have to someone else so they'd be able to learn from my mistakes. However I know thats impossible, sometimes I want people to learn from their OWN mistakes. Please give love a chance BUT, dont lose your effin mind and then blame it on being in love.

Tristan Jonez

He must be trippin'

Sometimes I think my father is the smartest guy on the planet and then others I think he is the dumbest, and today is one of those days. Maybe Im just not getting where he is coming from in his advice, or maybe he just says the first thing that comes to his mind without really thinking. To be honest I dont know and wont know because Im not currently talking to him. I didnt mean to be rude to him and hang up the phone but I couldnt take anymore of the bullish he was talking.

I've decided to go back to school to finish getting my degree and pursue teaching. The thing is the classes are at night BUT I work at night so thats obviously a problem. I cant be at two places at once so something has to give, and that would be my job. Luckily I dont have to quit right away but eventually Im going to have to. My dad's gonna tell me I just need to stay at my job!! Like umm stay until when? This is just a job, granted there are people who dont have a job but I cant just settle for this. Im comfortable but change is always good and isnt life about taking chances. No Im not just going to quit without having a job lined up, I do have an apt and a doggie I have to take care of but still a lil support would've been nice.

-Jonez

Special Announcement!

Hopefully this will be the last posting about this (I doubt it) but I have to get this off my chest. As a female I know that sometimes we can let our emotions make a fool of us BUT when the truth is clear as day in front of your face you cant ignore it. Ladies please stop chasing after these men that clearly dont want you! A persons actions speak much louder & clearer than words, so if he isnt giving you the type of love or attention you require why continue on? Ok ok, I know I sound a lil harsh but look at it from my point of view, I see my friends being treated poorly and theres nothing I can do about it. I try to limit my opinion because I dont want to create a rift in the friendship, but I do get tired of hearing about all thats wrong in your relationship.

If a man wants to change and be all the things you want him to be, he will only do that IF HE WANTS TO! Theres nothing in this world or even the next world that you can do to make him change his ways. Yes you should accept his flaws along with the qualities you love about him but If you're settling just so that you can say you have a man, then thats pathetic! Yes you can have a life without being someone's girlfriend. I may not be the best example but hey look at me! I dont have a boyfriend but Im not just sitting on my hands at home. No I date... alot! Im happy maintaining different levels of friendship with different guys. And No sex hasnt been introduced with any of the guys, hell they are free to sex whomever they choose except for me. I have an idea of what I want and I havent really found the unavoidable spark in any of them so Im going to keep dating and having a good time until I find the one Im looking for.

Ladies I just want whats best for you and sometimes a person on the outside can see better, your vison is blurred {tainted} because what you feel. Im always here if you ever need to talk just call on me.

-Jonez