Tuesday, September 16, 2008

19 and . . . Married?

... Renacted by Kia Collins
"Guess What?"
"What?"
"I'm married!"
"What?!"
. . . To say I was in a state of shock is an understatement. My little sister Sanaa who is only nineteen just got married. My emotions were conflicting, on one hand I was thrilled that Sanaa was married but on the other I worried that she had just made a terrible mistake.
"Sanaa what in the hell made you do this? Marriage is not something to be taken lightly."
"I know and I'm not taking it lightly. I love my Brandon and he loves me."
"Love has nothing to do with marriage."
"Kia you sound crazy. Are you sure your the eldest? Marriage and love goes hand in hand. We felt getting married was the ultimate way to show each other our true committment." Sanaa explained
"I can understand but at the same time you have to understand where I'm coming from. Your only nineteen and yes you've lived through some experiences but there is so much more of the world left to be seen."
"And I can still see them. I'm married not dead!"
"Same difference!" I said laughin but meaning every word.
Sanaa joined me laughing.
"Sometimes it take couples a lifetime to realize they are ready for the trials that a marriage can take you through. A marriage is a job and you don't get any days off from, no sick leave and no compensation for overtime."
"I can't explain anymore than saying I feel in my heart that Brandon and I was made and molded for each other."
"Ok so if you feel that strongly about him why couldn't you two have waited until you was 21. By waiting you two could have strength your friendship and ultimately your relationship. . ."
... In the mind of Trist,
A good friend of mine recently confessed that she had gotten married. My first reaction was that of shock, surprise and dismay, but only because I wasn't invited. But then I realized Toya was only 19. As a child, I would always say I would never get married and Im staying true to that. I guess because even as child I knew that the reality of marriage being forever was unlikely. Our Society, today, is too obsessed with quick fixes to any problem, long and short term. I don't think 'quick fixes' are the solution to any problems within a marriage. I guess Im scared that I'll get married, my husband will cheat on me, then I'll be going to JAIL, for murder, so yea MARRIAGE isnt for me. (Laughing)

-Tristan Jones

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