Im ready to leave the relationship with mi girlfriend but I feel obligated to stay. She took care of me including my bills, along with all the household bills while I was out of work for four months. My feelings for her have since changed but I feel If I leave she'll think I was only using her(Which I wasn't) until I got back on my feet. Im still finding my way but I did find a job and have been paying the bills on my own. Don't get me wrong, I care deeply about her, just NOT in love with her anymore. How do I leave without hurting her? HELP!
-Detached but Attached
Dear DBA,
COMMUNICATION is truly the key to a healthy and long lasting relationship or friendship. You have to tell her how you really feel, and soon, because it will only get worst as time goes on. I assume the relationship wasn't always about her taking care of you and you was doing things for her when you were able to. I assume she took care of you, not because you asked, but because she genuinely wanted to. That she did it out of the kindness of heart and not because she was looking for something in return. Unfortunately relationships dont always last forever and ever but you owe it to her to be as honest as you possibly can. Break ups will NEVER be easy, especially when you love that someone. If she gets discourtesy with you and demand you move out(if your living together), demand you return what she brought(clothes or shoes), or demand monies for gadgets brought(cellular phone, PS3, etc)
then move out immediately, return what you can, and pay her for gadgets brought but try to keep the peace while doing so. Remember this she's going to feel slighted either way, so just make your exit a peaceful one.
-Jones
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