According to Jonez

I know I havent really been answering your advice questions lately but I've been really busy with finding my own answers about questions I have. I got this question yesterday and even though I've already given my opinion to them I thought I'd post it here. Oh and I changed it a lil to keep the innoncent unknown.

Dear Tristan,
I just need a little advice about this guy I've been seeing. He has a lot of female friends but doesn't want me with any male friends. I thought a relationship is suppose to be an equal. If he thinks I been talking to another guy he would either physically hurt me or talk to his ex's about the situation even our sex life....knowing I'm not ok with his ex's in our business. They may try to use whatever he's says againt me to be with him. He say he not interested in them but it's hard to tell whats what. I love him dearly but dnt know how to walk away. Im scared of being hurt more than what I am n I dnt wanna hurt him either.....
-Brokenhearted Girl

Dear Brokenhearted Girl,
Its NEVER okay for a man to put his hands on you for any reason! If he's upset about what your doing, then he needs to walk away until he's able to speak on it. If there isnt any trust in the relationship then its bound to fail! Trust is the thread that keeps your mind sane, just knowing that he's where he says he'll be or that he's doing what he is supposed to do without any supervision. Its ok to be friends and keep in contact with an ex but to disclose imtimate details of his current relationship is wrong, especially if you've already let him know you're NOT ok with it. To me it seems like your boyfriend is a self-centered jerk who is only thinking of his self. Love can be a very tricky thing but are you happy? If you arent happy how can you make another human being happy? Sometimes we as women want to make everything better, to overcome every obstacle that we come across but we have to be able to identify whats worth saving. Walking away is indeed the hardest thing you may have to do but to save your own sanity it may be necessary. During the break up of a relationship someone is going to get hurt, thats just the way it goes because feelings are involved. I dont think you are ready to walk away just yet. I do believe when you're tired of the bullsh!t, you'll find the strength within yourself to leave and NOT look back. Keep me posted, I'll always be here to listen.

Tristan Jonez