I've been officially single since November of 2008 and I can't say I love it but I'm dealing with it. I believe that my body is a temple, NOT a swing for every man to get a turn on. I'm naturally a relationship person but I'm not going to overlook key things that I know I don't accept in a relationship. For example, I have a few male friends that have been there for me so I'm not going to cut them off just because the guy I'm dating is insecure with himself. Let me finish... I'm willing to introduce them to each other and everything to show them that they are just my friends. I'm secured with who I am and if you tell me she is just a friend then that's what I'm going to believe until I see otherwise. I'm so focused on writing and making it work that I sacrificed my social life temporarily but I'm ok with it. I feel while everybody is out clubbing, I'm grinding!
I feel dating is the time when you are getting to know someone. It's like a test run, to see if that's someone you'd actually want to be with in the long run. Communication is mos definitely the key, if you want to date multiple people let it be known. Woman it's ok, to date as many folks as you choose to, just don't lead anyone. I'm a BIG believer in making it known what my intentions are and I love to get that in return.I can't speak for anyone else but If a man only wants to have sex with me, then speak up!! Now I'm not saying I'm going to want the same thing but maybe I could. A closed mouth will never get fed, so how will I know what you want if you don't tell me?? You can keep it funky (honest) with me but just be ready for my response. If the guy I'm dating said he ONLY wants sex, I would have to let him go because I'm not ready for a sexual friendship. I think before dating someone you should know before hand what you are willing to compromise.
-Jonez
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Marriage its something deep, there is no reason to rush into it and yet many ppl do. Speaking from experience, nvr once being told I love u from a family member, nvr once being told your beautiful, losing all the positive/influential role model in your life left to deal with the negativity life offers while still learning how to tie your shoes. A man comes around unlike n e other n tells u how ur beautiful inside n out, notices ur perservarance and encourages you like no other, 9 times outta 10 you fall for it. Sometimes its real n sometimes its not, sometimes the relationship last other times it doesnt. No one has lived in another persons shoes to know why they did something we r always outsiders looking in. Yes sometimes ppl r wrong but its all learning experiences and only the strongest will survive. We r all entitled to one mistake of that nature bc every1 does it but the jokes on us when we do it again and again.
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