The Cookie isn't free or is it?

So my homegirl Sen and I was having a conversation about whether or not a man should directly or indirectly pay for a females company. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about prostitution. I'm talking about if you cook dinner for him three times a week, he should pay for the groceries and in my case wash dishes. Or you two go out to a formal affair, he should pay for the tickets or the dress. It's not that I have anything against independent woman (I am one) but you need to start letting a man be the man in the relationship. If you are Always paying for dinner or Always deciding what activities your going to partake in, he may feel as though you don't need him. If a man feels unneeded, then eventually he's going to leave your ass and find a woman who makes him feel needed.

Yes men love a woman who can take care of herself and does her thing but he wants to be the knight that sweeps you off your feet. WOMEN, let him be that knight. Allow him to pay for dinner, allow him to take you on trips, allow him to do the little things for you, especially if he knows you can afford to do all these things for yourself. It takes time and money to keep your hair done, nails done, dressing fabulous, and all the other steps that you take for a night on the town so is it so far fetched that a man should foot the bill for that night out. I agree there isn't a price on your cookie, cuz mine is priceless however you as women should know your worth. I really do believe that a man will only do what you allow him to so stop short changing yourself. You especially can't get mad at them for taking advantage of you, when you let them roam free doing whatever they would like to do. If you know you aren't ready for a sexual relationship stop letting these men talk you into letting him into your panties. PERIOD!!

If he don't want to play by your rules, then drop him, there are many more fish in the sea. I am tired of hearing my friends complain about this guy who doesn't want a relationship but yet your still sleeping with him. He will never want a relationship because he knows he can do the bare minimal for you and your willing to accept that. A sexual relationship with no strings attached, is NOT for everyone. Most people cant handle that type of friendship because feelings get attached. It's a proven fact that someone will want more and it's not always the females!! For example, my friend Candy* was just having fun with Stephen* which included sleeping with him. This went on for a few years, she never made a commitment to him, in fact she would only really call him when she was in between relationships or when she needed a tune up. Anyway Stephen caught feelings early on and when he told Candy she slowly started to cut ties with him because she didn't want more. She was happy with their arrangement as is.

My point is you have to choose the arrangement that's best for you. I'll give one more example, After my recent break up, I started talking to a guy I worked with. After talking to him for a few weeks, I realized I liked him, he was a cool dude, attractive, smart, etc but he at first led me to believe he wanted a relationship with me. I knew I wasn't ready for one so I kept it platonic. A few weeks later, He suggested we could be "bed buddies", at first I thought I would be able to handle that but I ultimately declined because I knew I would eventually want more than that and he didn't want to give me more than sex. Am I happy with the decision I made? Hell Yes, later I realized all dude was, was an attractive face. Ladies ultimately its up to you to know your worth and to not let a man dictate what your worth should be.

-Jonez

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