I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 yrs but in that time she has cheated on me with 3 different men and I've stayed through all of that. I've watched her two boys grow up and I don't want them to feel abandoned If I leave but I'm tired of feeling manipulated and disrespected. What now?
-Sucka for Love
Dear SUL,
You need to focus on yourself first. It may sound selfish but if you are not happy how can you make someone else happy? Its obvious that this woman doesn't care or even respects you or the relationship so don't force something that isn't there. I understand it can be hard to break away from the kids since you are attached but that needs to be done! If its possible to still see them and interact with them, then go for it. However depending on the kids ages they can become confused about your new relationship with them that doesn't include their mother. A great way to approach the children would be to just be honest. Let them know that even though their mother and you aren't friends anymore, you still love them and you will always be there for them. In the long run, if you was a good man, the mother might even run back to you. And if that happens, examine the situation from all sides before you jump back into bed with the devil.
~Jonez
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