Fresh...Dope...Live...

Another installment of a classic R&B song, Ryan Leslie you get such a big up! I need to see this guy in concert!
-TJ

VERSE 1
I don't have to say you're beautiful
You've got plenty other guys to say those words for you
and I don't have to say you run the show
all it takes is a word, i lose control for you

HOOK
i know you're not my girlfriend, but
i swear that i love you
baby i do
i know you're not my girlfriend, but
i swear that i love you
baby i do

VERSE 2
i don't have to say you stole my heart
'cause anything i have i freely give to you
and i knew right from the very start
that the only place i belong is next to you

HOOK
BRIDGE
even thru all
the ups and downs
you can't stop
the way i feel now
even thru the storm
joy & pain
i won't change
still feel the same
anytime you call
i don't care
no matter the reason
i'll be there
constantly on my mind
and that's why i'm hoping
you will be my
valentine (valentine)

HOOK
...and i know you love me too

VOICEBOX
i swear that i love you...yes i do

Where'd you Cop them ?

To me these shoes (Stan Smith) are as classic as Ralph Lauren. I remember my older sister having a pair of these and I used to sneak and wear her sneakers to school. (Laughin) I would hurry up and run home so I could not only beat her there but so I could have time to clean them as well. When I finally got a pair of my own, I treated them like gold!! I dedicate this posting to you, Adidas! Oh and you can cop them at adidas.com (http://www.shopadidas.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3209142&shopGroup=R&cp=&y=15&x=61&colorId=288703)

..Welcome Back!

Ok so I was feeling VERY out of wack, but Im feeling better. Surprisingly after talking about my farewell party and moving to Los Angeles! And no not on the Greyhound either. However I am going to take a cross country trip one of these days... Gotta get my L's first. But Yea Im sorry If I made anyone worry unnecessarily, I was just trippin'. Ya'll know I can trip from time to time but I always bounce right back, ya digg??!! (Laughing)

So Im heading out to hang out with my homeslice, Resh for a few hours to chop it up. Wanna meet up with your local celebrity, I'll be at Whiskey Traders... Google it baby!

-JONEZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

OH P.S. I'll be in Polo Grounds for a hot minute.... Catch me if you can!

I Gotta Getaway (Mobb Deep)

I can totally understand why someone would want to take their own life. Even though I have already been down that path, it wouldn't be so hard to revisit it. As mad as I am that my first love committed suicide, I sometimes want to take the easy way out and follow in his footsteps. LIFE can be a real B!TCH! I feel so alone, and unloved. Like Im trying my best not to cry since Im at work but I may have to duck into the bathroom. I've been putting up this wall, like the sh!t that has been going on doesn't bother me. You can never let them see you sweat, never let them have the satisfaction that what they're saying/doing actually has an affect on you. So for weeks, I've been smiling and laughing and doing all the things I would normally do. Just to show that on the outside, the eff up things you do, dont bother me. However inside Im dying. I mean Im human and I can only take but so much as well, but Im going to continue to keep this wall up until my time is done at this job.

Im just feeling so alone and I dont know how to pick myself back up. I havent been out in a few days because I was starting to feel like I needed to have a drink just to maintain. I didnt/dont want to end up like my uncle (He has a drinking problem). I dont want to feel like I cant accomplish anything unless Im intoxicated! Yes getting drunk helps to rid me (mentally) of my current issues, but just like clock work them suckers come right back (mentally) I've also been thinking about the whole LA thing and Maybe thats NOT where Im supposed to be. Right now Im in the process of selling most of my clothes and shoes for extra money and less baggage. I was also contemplating just getting on a bus to wherever and going state to state and writing! I mean yea technically I would be homeless but I get excited thinking of all the stories that would be able to come out of that.

I stay wishing my mother was here! Fukc!

-TIFFANY/TRISTAN

She got a mean SHOE GAME!

I really like these shoes because they are very versatile. You could easily rock them at work for that friday meeting but slide right into the lounge for cocktails after work with ya girlfriends. Once again a L.A.M.B original!

-Jonez

According to Jonez

Dear Jonez,
Have you ever known of a person, but was in love with them? Have you ever listened to their words and thought damn that man is deep? Did you feel with those same words he was peeking into your soul and telling you all the things you've always wanted a man to say? Have you ever listened, I mean really listened and say Damn, How could he know all about me even though he never met me? Love at first sight, although I've never really seen him in person. But I know I'm in love with that man. How could I ever tell him how I feel if he doesn't even know I'm alive?
-In love with a man

Dear ILWM,
How can or will he ever know how you feel if you never tell him? I get the impression that he isn't a regular person... maybe a celebrity? I wish I had the answer of how to get closer to him. Sh!t I'm trying to get close to Kid Cudi to let him know how I feel about him, and have a chance just to get to know him better. I figure sometimes we have to love someone from afar.. but yes that's wack. So ummm I guess try to frequent where he is going be or I don't know email him? I mean it's definitely worth a shot, what's the worst that could happen? He actually reply?

-TRIST J

Haters dont EXIST!

I honestly dislike the word 'hater.' I think a hater is just a person who has no imagination. They are happy with staying still, happy with the routine they've created for themselves and theres nothing wrong with that. People like that cant understand why you want to follow a dream especially if you dont know where it'll take you. Sometimes they try to tell you to do ya thing but the more steps you complete towards your goal they tend to fall back. They may start to see what they themselves would've accomplished if they could've opened their eyes to whats pass today or tomorrow.

After "Darnell" said all that sh!t, it made me feel like maybe I shouldnt go to LA. since I started being serious about moving and & writing people who I though had my back have been my harshiest critics. I've heard it all!!! What's crazy is before when I was just toying around with writing, everybody was "Team Tristan" but now that I'm willing to take life's biggest risks, I'm dolo!

NO CORRECTION Im not dolo. I have real friends who have encouraged, influenced and motivated me to pursue everything I want! Mo said 'If people dont want to be there, then eff them, you cant stop living your life because a motherfukcer doesnt like it'. I guess because Im not a person who will put anyone down, i cant understand how someone could do that to me. I'm practically an open book, so knowing that my life hasnt been easy why would you do things to make them harder. all my life I've been fighting for respect, fighting to be heard, fighting for love and the list goes on. So once again why make life harder for me. As I get older I understand this quote better than ever, "Your life is like a broadway show and not everyone should have front row seats."

-Jonez

A Solo Deal

I've never felt more alone or more isolated now than I have in the 23yrs I've been alive. I feel like no one can even grasp how I might be feeling. I want to scream, fight hell even runaway but I've done all of that before and NONE of it has helped. I'm tired of fighting, tired of trying, tired of running away. For the past 6 yrs I've been running. I made this semi detailed plan of how to leave NYC and move to where my heart may be content. I question my decision everyday. How can I be so confident I'm doing the right thing when I have no idea as to what the right thing is. The most obvious thing is usually always the easiest thing and I'm not 100% happy everyday.

At work I feel like I don't belong there and nobody wants me there. Shit feels like middle school all over again. I was always considered 'different' which is just a nice word for weird as hell! Thinking back on my childhood I spent most of the time alone. I've become so accustomed to being by myself that having 'friends' sometimes bug me out. Lately I feel like I've just been making messes and i'm tired of trying to clean them up. So imma go back to what i know for sure is a winning formula and be alone. I know for a fact I get along with myself 110% so I can be myself around myself and not eff ish up.

Philly this weekend??

-Tristan Jonez

Sent from my iPhone

New Moon, Old Cast

Im so hyped for this movie to come out and its NOT all because of Edward Cullen either! I actually read and liked the story! (Yes I read all the books, sans the first one cuz I had seen the movie!) Anywhoo make it a movie night with your fam because Im sure your 'tween and teenagers are dying to see it. Im wondering if its coming out on IMAX??? I'll be sure to google it though. November 20, 2009! Enjoy!

-TRISTAN J

Till Somebody gets (hurt)

I swear Imma stop letting people meet the 'REAL' me. From now on Im going to be this carbon copy of everyone else. Its so hard to be myself, that I feel like im turning into someone I dont even recognize anymore. I used to be able to define who I was, maybe NOT in three words, but still a definition. Im not sure how to go back to being the person I was before. Like how do I return to "Tiffany", I dont think I've become "Tristan". Yes that seems like a crazy statement! But Im a crazy a$s person, always have been and prolly always will be.

Maybe I can be extremely mean or whatever but thats who I am. Pull me to the side and let me know. Trying to out do me, or trying to take it to the next level isnt going to do anything but make the matter worst. I can be a ball full of fire and other shyt but once again thats who I am. Im not a great fit for everyone, and vice versa. I have to understand that everyone isnt my friend, or even made to BE my friend. Some are just passing by and thats fine too. Well it should be fine.

-JONEZ (OR) AT LEAST I USED TO BE...

OH AND I'M CANCELLING MY FAREWELL PARTY!

The Manicure

I finally tried to give myself a french manicure. It came out kinda dope, See for yourself! Soon I'll be good enough to branch out...

I got a Big Ego

Im nearing 250 posting and I'm damn excited! Since I've started this blog I've grown and opinions have matured. Before I started my blog I was bitter, angry and maybe even jealous but now I wake up with a smile on my face happy about facing the day and writing about it. When I started Tristan Jonez it was with the intent to introduce you to my style of writing. To build an audience, and to maybe get feedback on the things I write about. However nothing ever goes how I plan! It's more than just a blog, its a collection of my personal thought... Yes even the section can I have some... SEX. Most times I speak from experience so my readers wont make the same mistakes I've made, and if they do, they know they can count on me to help them through it. Sometimes yes I do get in trouble for the things I write because my friends/family don't ask to be on my blog. But comedians do the same thing. Most times their greatest material comes from family & friends. Im just happy to have an audience who enjoys what I write and encourages me to do more. Without the inspiration my readers gave me TRISTANJONEZ.BLOGSPOT.COM would just be another page with words. Thank You!!

-Tristan J

Leads me back to you

Why is it that when we finally decide to move on with our lives the past wont let us? How many times have you told yourself you wasn't going to answer that call or reply back to that email? As much as you say you're tired of giving 110% and only getting 30% back, why do you still bother. You bother or (I) bother because I'm hoping for a change. I'm hoping you'll give me what I give you. I want you to make me feel as special as I make you. You feel like my one & only, regardless if you are or not. To stand by me during times that I can barely feed myself but I have a pen & paper. To be able to get my ideas out there makes starving all worth it.

To taste, smell, feel, see and touch writing, lets me know my heart is in the right place. I wait patiently for you to do the right thing, but how long do you expect me to wait? Making the first move is hard enough what else do you want me to do? Don't let the time you have now pass you by, another chance may not be in our cards my love.

-Jonez

Randomness...

Stupid people suck... So do phony mofos.
I need to see a doctor... I wake up with a headache EVERY morning!
Work sucks as$ but Im grateful to at least have a job. Most people dont have that
I have more underwear than anything other 'thing' in my closet, WTF? Oh and BTW I need to do laundry
Im excited for my farewell party and my flight outta here shortly after
I want more tat but of what?
Im getting so much better doing my manicure! Soon enough I'll be branching out to do others.
God dont like ugly... (Laughing)
If you need a hype man, then you wack!
Big Up to Tracy!!
Im feeling like some chicken nuggets from Wendy's, those shit are the best!! Especially with some melted cheese and bbq sauce!
Im still at work so let me finish this ish before ....

XOXO,
JONEZZZ BABY

Can I have some... SEX?

Should shaving be a prerequisite to intercourse?

Personally I don't rock a 'forest'! (Laughing!!) I honestly think shaving should be mandatory!
Reasons to shave (M or F)
1. Hair holds dirt
2. Hair can hold an odor! (Eww)
3. In the summer, hair sweats!
4. Pubs get caught in your partners throat!
And the list goes on.
I'm not saying go full bald eagle, hell, just like you trim your hair on your head you can do the same for your chocha. It just looks better. I feel 100% more confident when I'm shaved opposed to when I'm not. I feel lighter and more airy!

Oh and men this can pertain to you as well. I know how much you love for your girl to go down on you but she doesn't want to be coughing up hair balls. She ain't no damn cat! Once again, it might freak a girl out to see you so smooth, so just trim it. It shouldn't be enough hair that I could cornrow ya ish! That's just nasty.

And Ladies nothing is possibly more inviting to a man, that being able to see what he's about to eat! (Hello!) Some men don't even want to put their lips down there so the least you can do is make it visually attractive. (Just Saying)

There are cases where your partner likes it to be as hairy as possible (Dont Judge) so that's why communication is equally as important. You have to find out the things your partner like as well as dislikes.

If Shaving with a razor irritates you there are alternative methods such as waxing. I once read about a cosmetologist who would trim and cut the pubs of the chocha, but she would also color them. Home girl would style your chocha in the shapes and colors of fruits and veggies. At least instead of ya man complaining about eating fish you could get home girl to design a strawberry and tell him it was time for dessert!!

-Trist J

Also Visit, BettyBeauty.com!

Fresh... Dope... Live...

Ryan Leslie's album is so frikkin hot! Im such an R&B girl at heart so all of his songs sings to me. It's refreshing to hear a man pouring out his heart on a whole album, I love it.
-Jonez

I light a candle for you tonight... yeh...
said I reminisce on you, babe... reminisce on you... yeh...
listen...

[Verse 1:]
should've spend more time... been a part of your life... and made you more part of
mine... guess it's too late now...
I should've been a better friend... I done my best to understand you...
still it's hard to think that we're done... we through...

[Chorus:]
now what would you do... tell me... if I left you out of the blue... would you fight
back tears while your heart gets torn to pieces... cause that what I did when
you... left me out of the blue... love can feel so good and then suddenly it's
over...yeh

[Verse 2:]
I should've been more true... takin' better care of you...
like I was supposed to... guess it's too late now...
I should've told you how I felt... steady thinkin' of myself...
still I can't believe you went away so soon...

[Chorus:]
now what would you do... if I left you out of the blue... would you fight back tears
while your heart gets torn to pieces... cause that's what I did when you... when
you left me out of the blue... it's funny how love feels good and then suddenly it's over...

[Bridge:]
now when I ask myself... it's hard to see... how you can be anywhere but here with
me... you said that you needed space and time... so you would be able to make up
your mind... you said if I set you free... one day you'll be ready to come back
to me... did you really mean it? I hope you did... hope you ment it babe...

[Chorus:]
now what would you do... if I left you out of the blue... if I left you out of the
blue... would you lose your mind and go crazy... cause I almost died when
you left me... when you left me out of the blue...love can feel so good and then
suddenly it's over... so what would you do... if out of the blue... I just left
you... would it make you cry... keep you away tonight... would it leave your
heart sick and lonely... cause that's what you did baby... when you left me out
of the blue... it's funny how love feels good and then suddenly it's over...

that's righ... I light a candle for you tonight, babe... yes I will, yes I will...
cause I'm missing you... so I light a candle for you baby... for us...
for me and you...
lalalala... lala lala... lalala ... lalalala...

Where'd you Cop them?

I choose these kicks because I thought it was cool that he sprayed painted the dunks. These are custom made kicks by artist KJax, Kudos to you! Cop them at Premierkicks.com (http://www.premierkicks.com/kjax-nike-dunk-womens-custom-p-2787.html)

she got a mean SHOE GAME!

These are the perfect sandals for a vacation out of NYC. I would def pick these up except they are sold out! These are L.A.M.B. by Gwen Stefani, she makes really cute shoes.

ColorMeMine.com (Updated)

I had the best Sunday ever this past weekend. I took my niece to Tribeca to a shop called Color Me Mine. Its a place where you are the artist and your able to transform a plain piece of ceramic into your own masterpiece. There are hundreds to chose from! I chose a dinner plate while my niece Sanaa, chose a dog. She painted it just like her own real life dog Bizzie. I picked a plate not only to be frugal but because I know I'm not an artist. Turns out I am an artist!!! My plate which will be a gift to my niece, turned out better than I could've imagined. I'm thinking of even starting a section on my blog dedicated to hidden gems around New York City that many people many not know about.

After Color Me Mine we then went uptown to Amy Ruth's it was jammed pack but its not that large of a restaurant. The food was good (See: Amy v. Roscoe) and the price was reasonable. Even though I spent close to 100$ it was definitely worth it.

-Tristan

P.S. It's colormemine.com, check it out and see you there!

The Manicure

So this is what my manicure looks like today but I don't think its going to be staying this way to much past Monday, if that. I've been looking for a turquoise color but I've had zero luck! If you happen to see a nice color, pick it up for me, THANKS!!

-Jonez

Can I have some...SEX?

Okay Kids this posting isn't for you even though I already know your going to read it anyway.

I've been asked about whether a person should swallow or not. I do believe its a very personal decision and only you should make it. Do not allow your partner to force, manipulate or peer pressure you into doing something you aren't ready for. Swallowing is extremely personal and its not something that you should do with everyone! In the event that you are considering swallowing there are a few tips that can help make the moment(s) more enjoyable.

1. As foreplay, you and your man can feed each other fruits such as strawberries, raspberries, cherries and blueberries. Pineapples are especially great for men to eat before sex because it can make their semen taste sweeter.

2. Eat Honey! Not only is honey an antibacterial and anti fungal, it also 'sweetens' the taste of semen.

3. Ice Ice baby! While going down on your man, the hot and cold of your mouth will heighten his pleasure but the water that's left in your mouth will thin out the semen.

4. Wanna Mint? Using mints(Altoids)it can not only stimulate your man's peen but it can also help to cover the taste of the semen as it goes down.

Here is a recipe that can help your man taste sweeter, ENJOY!!

Super Spunk Smoothie
1 cup pineapple, fresh or canned
1 banana, frozen
1 cup apple juice
1/2 tsp ginger
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp nutmeg
1/2 tsp vanilla extract
2 TBS honey
Optional ingredients: 1 raw egg white, 2 TBS wheat germ, 2 TBS flax seed, 1 shot wheatgrass juice
Blend all ingredients in a blender until smooth. Drink immediately. Repeat daily for best results.

-Jonez

November 9, 2009

It's official! I'm moving to Los Angeles on November 9,2009. I finalized the purchase of my ticket and I'm on my way! My family prolly still don't think I'm going to actually go through with leaving but I'm sure am. I already made amends (Sort of) with my older sibling and clued her in on the things Im prepping myself to do. In the coming weeks, I will (hopefully) do that with the rest of my family members. I'm going to do my VERY best to go to bmore to chill and hang out with my people before I leave! Right now I'm just looking forward to the future and all that its about to bring.

XOXO,
T. Jonez

The Manicure

So Im taking a page out of 52flavors.com book and posted my recently done manicure. Im usually one to do bright, bold and enticing colors, but I was feeling changing it up a bit. This week I have two tones of pink but I was too lazy to take a photo. (Sorry) Enjoy!

-Tristan J

P.S. It may become an ongoing thing...

203rd POSTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As I think about what to write for this posting, Im crying! Its been such a long road to get to this point and Im soooooooooo PROUD of myself. I've written each and every posting, and they all came from my heart. I can't tell you how trying these last few weeks have been but I've made it through alive. Losing friends, finishing a book, stepping out on my dream has all been worth it! Im thankful for allllll the many downfalls I thought I was having, it just prepared me for the good things that were coming my way.

I thank everyone who has ever read my blog, ever commented, or ever gave me something to think then write about. Its been a journey, however I thank you ALL for being there and growing with me. Even the people who are no longer a supporter, I thank you too, cuz at one point, you were!

XOXO, Tristan Jonez

Can I have some... SEX?

So what makes a person sexually attractive?

While I was on the two train, I noticed someone trying to get my attention which wasn't going to happen because I wasn't interested. It got me thinking about what I'm attracted to physically in a man. Its funny because what I'm attracted to isn't always whats attractive to me.

I'm attracted to brown skin to dark skinned men, tall, nicely built or even chunky! I like a low cut, razor sharp shape ups. I like a man with minimum facial hair except for a pencil thin mustache. (That ish is sexy) What takes the cake for me is he has to have that cocky/confident attitude. Usually the type of me that approach me are lite skin, caramel complexion. Average to tall in height, athletic to slim build, low cuts usually, kinda rugged around the edges and most times NO GOOD for me.

I once heard we subconsciously attract the same type of men. If that's true how do you change that? What vibes can a person let off to attract less of the same? OR how do you change what your attracted to? Just Saying'

-Trist J

Where'd you cop them? (Joanna Edition)

So I was browsing Nicekicks.com and I ran across these gems. I usually save my sneaker & Shoe additions for the weekend but Im in a good mood. Plus I think My good friend Joanna would love them!!! Enjoy

-Tristan

According to Jonez

Dear Jonez,
I've been in a relationship for a few months with my boyfriend. We broke up, however we were still very much in love. We thought about getting back together but it wasn't the right time. So me and my ex remained friend but got into relationships with other people. After a year we both decided to get back together and things were going well until he found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant with his child. What are we going to do?
-So Damn Mad

Dear So Damn Mad,
Its a tough position for you to be in however you'll have to make a decision. If his ex is willing to keep the baby that's a choice you will have to accept and respect. Your boyfriend will obviously (hopefully) want to be there for the baby. It will definitely test how much you two love each other. Communication will play a major role in your relationship more so now than ever before. It's really hard to give advice of what to do because this is a decision you will have to live with. I've never been in that position but if it was a man I could see myself growing old with then staying and making it work would be an option worth exploring. I also believe how strong your relationship is also plays a part. If you're only invested a few months, then your relationship may not be as solid as you would like. Then you really don't have much of an opinion as far as the two soon to be parents (+ baby) goes. Jealousy may arise because of all the time you bf will be spending with his ex. I can understand this will be a lot to take in but be as open with your bf as possible. Your bf is definitely going thru a lot probably, more than he'll let on. So be compassionate but understandable to how he may be possibly feeling. Sometimes love can conquer all, I'm hoping this time the adage is true for you. Be sure to let me know what happens.

~Tristan Jonez

Paternity Questioned

As I was listening to the radio I heard of the case that was recently in the news. A man was ordered to continue to pay child support even though biologically the baby isn't his. I thought once a petition was put in for child support that the judge ordered the "father" to take a DNA test to actually prove that he was the dad. I think men absolutely should take care of their responsibilities without a judge ordering them to do so. However I do live in the real world and sometimes people have to be told what to do. I don't believe a man SHOULD have to pay for any expenses concerning a child that's is proven NOT his biologically. It boggles my mind to how and why a judge would order this foolishness. If a man who was thought to be the father wanted to continue to be in the child's life and wanted to financially commit then that SHOULD be his choice, and nobody else's. If this somehow becomes a law (Which I hope is unlikely) who will be held accountable for the false petition claims that will surely be found? For example what if a mother doesn't know who is the father. Is it fair that the man she think will take care of the baby be responsible for actually taking care of him?

~Jonez

Fresh...Dope...Live

It's you, it's you (ooooh,mmhmmm)
Verse1:
You come out from nowhere, disappear and reappear
Houdini would be very proud
I can speculate your fears, wonder on your tears
But I just wanna hear your sound
And I know you love to live extremes
Your sword is made above your dreams, but tell me who's cut now
There's a road that's paved and made
With signs along the way, come through somehow (whooa, oh)

Chorus:
I can be anything you want me to be
I just wanna love you
Show you exactly what you mean to me
Honey let me love you

Verse 2:
Listen to the way I feel
When love can change you, love arranges you
Heaven blessed the day God sent you here
Hoping that love don't disappear
Feel you in ways I can't understand
Honey, baby, tell me I can be yo' man

Chorus:
Let me be anything you want me to be
Baby let me love you
Show you exactly what you mean to me
Honey let me love you
Love you now, love you now (oooh, MmHmm)

Bridge:
And even after years, I need you when you don't
I remain more stubborn then I ever was before
I bear the witness, bear the witness for you girl
All that is good is 'cause of you off in the world
I'll never go, I'm frozen, I'm standing here
Won't move until the day I get you near
Hear me when I say, you're the one I want
If you take this rib don't let it go (oooh,oh,oh,oh,oh)

Baby don't leave or ever go (no)

Where'd you Cop them?

In honor of the transformer movie, here are a pair of Nike Dunks. Enjoy... Cop them at premierkicks.com (http://www.premierkicks.com/nike-dunk-‘transformers’-customs-p-2806.html)

My Mooda

Im so frikkin' excited I could burst at the seams!!!! I'm going to be spending pretty much all day tomorrow with my niece Sanaa aka my Mooda. I've tried to plan the perfect sunday family fun day. We are going to go to Amy Ruth's for brunch then head on down to Color me Mine! Color me Mine is like an art studio, where kids (& Adults) pick ceramic pieces and paint them. Some of the pieces includes piggy banks, mugs, fairies, moons, pets, and things like that. Im really looking forward to hanging out with her, FINALLY!! I'll be sure to take manyyyyyyyy photos and I may even post them but dont hold ya breath. (Laughing) Ess I got you!!
-Jonez (The Auntie)

She got a mean SHOE GAME!

I guess Im really into Wedges for the summer, but they are just a sleek, chic shoe. I found these on a website that people usually tend to stay away from however you dont need to spend thousands to have a mean shoe game. Its all in the way in how you rock the shoes you buy.

-Jonez

P.S. They are from Payless $38 and they also have them in navy and black.

Can I have some... SEX?

Welcome to the morning after

What happens the morning after you have sex for the first time with someone new? Do you get served breakfast in bed? Or it is just cab fare to get you home? And if its the latter how do you react? Do you act like it was just sex but what if it wasnt? What if your feelings were invested in the courtship? So you then say something of substance?

When you take the relationship to the next level (Sexual) you have to be prepared for whats to come. Sometimes you get the man who makes the breakfast in bed for you and sometimes you get the 10$ for a taxi and a kiss (On the Cheek) @ the front door. Hopefully there was some talk about what moving to the next rung on the ladder meant. As a woman i know we have the tendency of getting emotional. Sex doesnt necessarily mean a relationship, dont assume that you and your "mate" are now exclusive because you may be setting yourself up for a failure. From experience people (the sex talk) should always come BEFORE the sex. If he's saying something you know you arent trying to hear then DONT move forward with him. Trust me, having sex with him may not change his mind but you'll prolly end up with ya feeling hurt. Be Careful!
-Jonez

Can I have some... SEX?

First date sex! Are there any rules or can anything go? Obviously theres a double standard however can you build a lasting relationship from first date sex? If a person puts out does that mean you are now hesitant about actually moving forward in any direction?

Personally I don't think theres a thing wrong with having sex on the first date, if that's your choice. It becomes a problem when your date (M or F) is pressuring you to do it. Sometimes a woman wants to just fu*k and theres nothing wrong with that. Men seem to want to put labels on woman for the certain activities they choose to partake in. If I'm a ho for having sex on the first date then he is a ho as well because Im not having sex with myself. I honestly believe that sex shouldn't be a major focus but it is a key element.

For instance a friend of mine Kima* was interested in this guy. They had mutual friends but she didnt really know anything about him except he had a beautiful face and was studying to be a lawyer. Anyway he asked her out and she slept with him as a nightcap. For Kima the sex lacked everything and he didn't make her c*m so she knew he wasn't someone she wanted to actively pursue. I'm not sure I agree with her 100% because sex could always get better. Do I believe they were wrong for having sex? NOT AT ALL!! They are both grown so as long as they protected themselves, its whatever. Kima would even say she did him a favor. Her logic is by having sex now she is saving him time and money later on.

I guess she figures if the sex was wack after a few dates and time spent getting to know each other she would've left anyway. Either way do you honestly believe sex can kill a budding relationship before it even starts?

-Tristan J

Trust Me

Don't let the new woman pay for the mistakes of the last woman

Yea men this posting is all for you! Now I'm sorry that one girl hurt your feelings in the eight grade however you are grown now. Stop making the females your currently dating pay for the sins of the ex girl. Before you start dating someone new you should take time for yourself to rid yourself of the emotional baggage that builds with a relationship. If your ex girlfriend cheated I expect you to be a little more guarded with your heart, however let me make a mistake before you cut me off. Am I capable of cheating, yes... we all are, but I'm NOT your ex. I'm not necessarily going to do what she did. When going into something focus on that person and the things their doing. Judge them for their current actions. There isn't a time limit on getting over someone so take as much time that's needed. As a woman I try to release my emotional baggage before getting into another serious relationship. I'm still single because I'm not only scared of being cheated on again but I'm scared of taking my frustrations out on someone new. I want to start something new with a clean slate. I know not all men are liars and cheaters and when the times right prince charming will make himself known. All I'm saying men is don't punish your new love for what your old love did. The new one could be the RIGHT one so let her screw up on her own... If she ever does.

-Tristan

Dont Date him girl

Ladies as boring as being single can be you have to stop fu(king with Mr.Wrong just because he's a warm body and a hard peen. How will you ever find Mr.Right, if Mr.Wrong is holed up in ya house eating all ya food and burning up ya cable? That goes for you too Men. You know you dont have any other interest in that woman besides what she can do in the bedroom. Sometimes knowing and acknowledging the roles of others in your life will save you heartache and a headache. I am a little annoyed with getting phone calls about how much you cant see yourself with someone but yet you cant seem to let them go. I dont have to tell you their no good for you cuz thats what you explain to me. Being in a relationship for the sake of being in one is wack as hell and depressing especially if you know better. Being single is what you make it so love, make the BEST of it. -Jonez

P.S. Even thought I'd rather have a boyfriend, being single gives me the "ME" time needed to focus on my writing. (Just saying)

Memories

Yesterday I was walking from seeing if the fish market was opened on 106. I was/am feining for some steamed fish & shrimp!! Anyway as I was coming back with disappointment I ran into an old high school friend. Lauren* was actually the very first person I met at Humanities High (I did my sr. yr there). We quickly brought each other up to speed on our lives and what we're currently doing. I dropped the news that I was leaving and she AT FIRST was sad about it, but then she told me sometimes you have to do what makes you happy regardless of what other people think.
Whats funny about this story is her bff is "Darnell". Remember a few months ago I told you about a really good friend who basically said I would fall flat on my face if I would go out there. So as I was talking to her, he was behind me because they were meeting each other. It funny sometimes how life works... I havent seen neither of them in months and when I do its together. I didn't turn around to look at him and he didnt try to settle things with me, So I guess cutting off the friendship with him was the best thing I could've done. However losing a friend still hurts.

-Jonez

Fresh...Dope...Live

You know I couldnt do a fresh...dope..live without putting something from Maxwell's album. Im really feeling his 'comeback' album Im just upset that its only nine songs long!!

Theres a moving inner peace that I love to see gotta brace my soul to tell ya how i feel gotta listen to the tears the people cry for me in a world thats so wild fear creeps cause when i get up to hear u tears fill my eyes now i know gotta to let the selfishness subside tell em y'all

help somebody help somebody show em what it is give a lil bit more ohhh help somebody help somebody show em what it is let em know if you see the future ask it if I'm there ask it if I'm there

ask it to tell you did i ever make a stand ask if you made any mention did i learn from ever thing and even if it takes to see an entirety to know i waited centuries very nice and slow? help me help me to give myself the way u that u givin you oh help me to be the helping hand that makes a dream come ture choir sing help somebody help somebody show em what it is give a lil bit more whoooooo help somebody help somebody show em what it is let em know ohhhhh if I'm baby tell me if I'm there do you see me there see me there whoooo yeahhhh yeahhh yeahhhh yeahhhhh people

help somebody help somebody show em what it is give a lil bit more ooohhhh help somebody help somebody show em what it is let em know If you see the future ask it if I'm there ask it if I'm there

Where'd you Cop them?

I had to put these up for everyone to see! If you live in NYC then you know the flying rats (pigeons) are the worst. Im not sure If I would rock these kicks though but you can find them at premierkicks.com (http://www.premierkicks.com/nike-dunk-pooped-pigeons-custom-p-2795.html?osCsid=3eb7ec3aed6ceaed4ba96713a8bafcfe)

She got a mean SHOE GAME!

When I saw these shoes I literally fell in love! What a shoe, OMG! Yes they are $339.99 but they are worth every penny! They are designed by Gwen Stefani for L.A.M.B, they also come in brown and black. ~Jonez

According To Jonez

Dear Jonez,
I'm a lesbian and I've been out to my friends for two years. I want to come out to my parents but I'm terrified that they wont accept my lifestyle. I'm twenty something and I no longer live under their roof however their opinion still matters to me. I'm tired of being someone Im not in front of them. How can I show them the real me??
-Tired of being Phony

Dear Tired of being Phony
Coming out to your family is such a tricky thing because you never know how they'll take the news. I know their opinions matter but they're living their lives the way they choose and so should you. Telling them will not only life the weight off your shoulders but it'll also give them the chance to know the real you. I remember one year I went to Pride in Baltimore and came back home with a pin. It had a rainbow figure with words around it obviously it wasn't something a straight person wouldn't be wearing (I was going thru a faze). I thought I took it off in my room but I couldn't find it anywhere so I finally shrugged it off. A few hours later I went to get something from the fridge and found the pin posted in the center of the fridge as if that's where it belonged. The point is we never really know how someone is going to react until we tell them. In the event they don't agree, just give them time to come around you cant stop living your life just because someone doesn't agree.

~Tristan Jonez

Can I have some... SEX?

No You can't do that!?!

I believe watching Pretty Woman as a kid f(cked me up. I honestly dont think its a movie a child who is still shaping & forming her opinions of the World should watch. Remember the scene where Julia Roberts has come home with Richard Gere, she pulls out her assortment of condoms and proceeds to explain to him her rules of engagement. The one & Only rule that stuck with me thru adulthood was NO KISSING ON THE MOUTH EVER! As I got older I started to really think about that. So its alright to have sexual relations with someone however to kiss them is not allowed? Now that seem backwards, doesnt it? As we all know love isnt sex and sex isnt love! In my opinion you can easily detach yourself from the emotional elements of sex and keep it strickly physical. Some people dont know how to separate the two which is fine. But for the ppl who do know how, does this mean we are missing out on something? Obviously I've been kissed before but it comes much later into the courtship. Everyone have their "things" they wont allow, for me its NO kissing. I have a friend who doesnt like to receive oral sex. some would say she bugged out but for her its a comfort issue. She's just not comfortable having a man be so close to her. Everyone has boundaries so what's yours?

-Jonez

Summertime

As much as I love the summer I hate it as well. My biggest pet peeve is woman who wear sandals knowing their feet isn't RIGHT. No matter how hot it is you should never come outside displaying your undone feet. I'm not sure what bothers me more, the fact that your toes are unpolished or when the polish is chipped & nasty. EWWWWWW!! I know money is tight (Trust me, I def know) however still that's not an excuse, EVER!! I haven't been to the salon since last summer but yet I stay with the illest manicure and pedicure! How so, do you ask? I INVEST! I invested in a Sally beauty mani & pedi tools $10, five bright colored nail polishes $5, a bag of cotton balls $1, nail polish remover $3, and a clear top coat $1, I spent $20 but it ensures that I'm looking great all season long.

Growing up I (ALWAYS) bit my nails, but as I got older I started to take more pride in my appearance. I wore acrylic nails for a long time but its a $40 habit I couldn't afford to keep up. To fill the void the salon left I started to do my own I wasn't the best at it but practice makes perfect. I've gotten so good in fact, I've been stopped on the street to be asked who does my nails. And next week I'm planning on teaching myself how to do designs. So you see ladies there's no excuse as to why you shouldn't be on top of your beauty game everyday. Next time you violate I may not be this nice. I may just snap a photo & let the world see, just think of it as tough love. -Tristan J

Man On the Moon

I was reading his interview over at Complex magazine, and It made me cry!! I mean he came to New York with only a demo and 500$, and look at what he has become! A mega effin success, sometimes we have to step out on only faith and our dreams!! Damn I love Kid Cudi & If you dont know him intimately, then you are already behind!

- Jonez Tristan

(Here are some excerpts from the Interview)
Speaking of your grind, when did you decide to move to New York?
Kid Cudi: I was working at this restaurant in Cleveland. There was this white dude in his 40s who was cool as sh!t and would tell me, “You’re funny and people like you. You need to move the fu(k out of Ohio and just do this.” My uncle told me I could come out there and stay with him in the South Bronx until I got on my feet. I’d never met him; this was my father’s older brother, the last of my father’s siblings, so I wanted to make that connection anyway. I moved in 2004 with my little demo and maybe $500.

Your uncle let you stay for free?
Kid Cudi: Yeah. I didn’t have a job for about the first five months there, so I had to make that $500 stretch. [Laughs.] I didn’t have any friends and I didn’t know anybody, so my thing to do then was to go to Times Square and just walk around. I wanted to be a New Yorker so bad.

What would your dad say to you if he was still here?
Kid Cudi: "Keep it up, young man." He was always like, "Pick your head up! It shows confidence!" Now, with my confidence, because of my father and those moments, I remember why I’m here.

Its not Blk woman VS. Blk woman

I know I've written a blog on having thick skin but Its necessary that I post yet again. As a black woman, I think we put each other down more than any other race. I was reading the editor's note in Essence Mag and agreed with what was written. Instead of putting each other, we talk about one another. Most keep our accomplishments to ourselves for fear that it'll be taken as we are boasting!! For the blk woman who scored that promotion, for the blk woman who finally graduated college, for the blk woman who went back to college after taking five years off, etc... I acknowledge you and congratulate you!!

Whats puzzling to me is WHY are blk woman like that towards each other? WHY do we put each other down instead of up? And no its not all blk woman but the percentage is high. SMH! For example one of my biggest supporter of my blog is of spanish decent. Actually she is surprisingly turning out to be such a great friend (On & Off my blog)The point is We need to start supporting each other. There are enough forces trying to break us down as a people. (Just saying)

~Tristan J

Backsliding...

Now I've never been one to regularly attend church or try to be anything more than what I am. Yes I was raised in the church on the weekends with my dad, and raised in the streets during the week with mom however I've always treated people with the same respect I wanted them to treat me with. By no means am I perfect nor do I try to be, like I said I try to be the best person I can be. Lately I've been noticing how people give all praises to the lord above... and thats cool, If thats what your into. Different strokes for different folks however how can you talk about someone, or even put them down in the same breath? Think about it... Most of us are trying to live our lives the way that the bible tells us to but how can you do that when you are living foul. You can but (shouldn't) ask for forgiveness when you continue to do the same foul things. Of course Im in NO position to judge anyone on what they do or say, that's between them and their God. Wasnt there a saying "WWJD"? I think that is the best pre-thought for everyone. No matter what you're about to do, just think What would Jesus do? Before you talk bad about someone, Would Jesus do that? Before you steal money from 'her' purse thats open, Would Jesus do that? Life would be a much BETTER place if we started to treat folks how we wanted to be treated and took into consideration someone else's feelings before our own.

-Jonez

Can I have some... SEX?

I've never really been that into porn but Ive watched my share of them. There are ppl who watch them on the regular, to the point that the actors names. (Shout out to my boy J) My question is can porn be an educational tool or is it setting you up for failure?
Personally I've used it as an educational tool (See: Whats your fantasy) but can men who watch it fail to realize that those women are paid actors? I guess watching it can become an addiction but you can only do as many tricks as your partner allows you do. Trying to introduce too many new moves may confuse or even scare your partner off. Missionary isnt a bad position to start off with! Ease into her riding you, doggie style, and etc. Even porn stars get a water break! (Laughing) I've seen some ish on pornos that I still have nightmares about. At one point I'll admit, I was watching them so much I knew when someone had changed their hair color. (Sad right?) At least I can keep it real with ya'll! (Just Saying) Imma go out on a limb and say yes pornos have been an educational for me personally. If you had a sex life thats becoming too routine or just plain boring then please watch one or three. Bringing tricks you learn will definitely keep your partner surprised as well as satisfied!

~Jonezzz (The Sex expert) LMAO

Fresh...Dope...Live

I really love this song by John Legend. I first heard it on the season finale of the game when Derwin and Melanie are getting married. Its truly a beautiful song!

Ran into you yesterday
Memories rushed through my brain
It’s starting to hit me
Now you’re not with me
I realized I made a mistake
I thought I needed some space
But I just let love go to waste
It’s so crystal clear now
That I need you here now
I got to get you back today

[Chorus]
This time I want it all
This time I want it all
Showing you all the cards
Giving you all my heart
This time I’ll take the chance
This time I’ll be a man
I can be all you need
This time is all of me

I hit the bar every night
Looking to score a good time
It’s not like I planed it
We left empty handed
I’m still alone in my mind
Now what will it take to feel right
Can I come see you tonight?
Is there someone new now?
What can I do now?
Cuz I need you back by my side

[Chorus]
This time I want it all
This time I want it all
Showing you all the cards
Giving you all my heart
This time I’ll take the chance
This time I’ll be a man
I can be all you need
This time is all of me

Last time I wasn’t sure
This time I will give you more
I’m more mature
I’ll show you
Last time I didn’t know
I messed up and let you go
I need you, don’t say no
Lying alone in this room
All that is missing is you
Pick up the phone
Won’t you come home?

[Chorus]
This time I want it all
This time I want it all
Showing you all the cards
Giving you all my heart
This time I’ll take the chance
This time I’ll be a man
I can be all you need
This time is all of me

Where'd you cop them?

So these colors (POP) so obviously that was the first thing to catch my eye & attention. The shoe is so LA but you can definitely rock them in NYC!! Cop them at Vans.com (http://www.vans.com/girls/product/footwear/fashion/wellesley/)

Just Sayin'

So I've been thinking that I may put way tooo much of myself out there for the World to read. I honestly dont have anything to hide however I believe (NOW) that somethings should be left unsaid. I've been maintaining this blog for what? Six months or so? Well in that time, I've revealed a great deal about myself. I honestly believe I dont have any secrets, well I do but I dont have anything to be ashamed of. I've done things in my life which should be lessons to other people coming up. Its a fact that I've been homeless at the age of 18, that I tried to suppress my depression with men (For a while) that I was mental & damn there physically abused in a relationship, and etc but all these things made me who I am. All of these situations gave me the stories that I hold in my heart to write about.

While talking to a friend I realized that not EVERYTHING that happens in my personal life should be made public. I've always felt, I'd rather put the ugly sh!t out there myself then to have some (average Joe) come out of the blue with something about me. As I start to mature I understand my friend is right, AND IM WRONG. (See I can admit when Im wrong)Lately people have used my blog as a way to get information about me, which I can understand but dont try to use what you read against me. Remember I write what I WANT you to KNOW. Most times you can't take what I say to heart because sometimes Im over exaggerating the truth just to put some fire under your as$. So from now on my personal life will be just that effin personal.

-Jonez

She got a mean SHOE GAME

Im really into gladiator sandals this summer but I've always loved wedges. What a perfect blend of the two shoes I love for summer. Check http://www.neimanmarcus.com/index.jhtml for more shoes and accessories