I've been in a relationship for a few months with my boyfriend. We broke up, however we were still very much in love. We thought about getting back together but it wasn't the right time. So me and my ex remained friend but got into relationships with other people. After a year we both decided to get back together and things were going well until he found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant with his child. What are we going to do?
-So Damn Mad
Dear So Damn Mad,
Its a tough position for you to be in however you'll have to make a decision. If his ex is willing to keep the baby that's a choice you will have to accept and respect. Your boyfriend will obviously (hopefully) want to be there for the baby. It will definitely test how much you two love each other. Communication will play a major role in your relationship more so now than ever before. It's really hard to give advice of what to do because this is a decision you will have to live with. I've never been in that position but if it was a man I could see myself growing old with then staying and making it work would be an option worth exploring. I also believe how strong your relationship is also plays a part. If you're only invested a few months, then your relationship may not be as solid as you would like. Then you really don't have much of an opinion as far as the two soon to be parents (+ baby) goes. Jealousy may arise because of all the time you bf will be spending with his ex. I can understand this will be a lot to take in but be as open with your bf as possible. Your bf is definitely going thru a lot probably, more than he'll let on. So be compassionate but understandable to how he may be possibly feeling. Sometimes love can conquer all, I'm hoping this time the adage is true for you. Be sure to let me know what happens.
~Tristan Jonez
I believe no one can make that decision but urself. Do you think you can handle the fact that ur boyfriend & ex will be connected thru this child for life? His first important & main priority is the baby. In which you can't say he can't be involved. If ur relationship is solid then you should have no problem trusting him when it comes to his relationship with his ex. Trust is def the main issue.--Jade
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