New New New

This is the first of November so I'd thought Id start it correctly. I havent been writing like I used to at all. I just havent been feeling very motivated or inspired. My first novel is right back to collecting dust on my bedroom floor. I know I know I need to finish it and get the ball rolling but right now its just blah. (Laughing)

This time last year I was preparing myself for my 'big move' to Los Angeles, but a whole (roughly) 365 days later what am I doing?? I ask myself that constantly, I know Im forever dreaming but I have to actually do all the things Im dreaming about. I def still want to go to Venice, Italy, Take cooking classes in New Orlenas as well as dance thru the streets in the Treme! I need to explore, fail, and do it all over again. I need to LIVE!

I use my head to think too much, from now on, Im using my heart.

-Jonez

Back on the Prowl

"When I was with Shorty Man I thought that it was something but about a week later, man that ish was nothing"

Yup, Im single again but Im happier than ever! As my niece said 'another one bites the dust'

-Jonez!

Happy Berfday!

So today is the birthday of the most amazing person I've ever known, my momma. Happy Birthday Mommy!

-Jonez

Sweet & Sour

My current beau just gave me the ok to date other people while being with him! Isnt he the sweetest?

Jonez

If I was your best friend

Tonight there were some words that were subliminally shared between a former best friend and myself. Maybe he thought I was trying to say something to him without actually saying it but I assure you that was not the case.   I had been listening to Kanye’s new songs Power and Runaway, so I put a verse from the song as my aim status. It was very harmless and not directed at him. Jeff (the former bestie) felt the need to also put in a verse from Runaway as his status. I ignored it at first but then he changed it to something else, so I did the same. I know tit for tat doesn't solve anything but there is such a deep rooted hurt in our history that he was lucky, all I did was change a status.

Just a tad bit of history, Jeff and I was best friends from the second we first met each other. It was like something clicked and it was like finding the other part of myself. Yes, we talked about a relationship but at the time I was 17 so we just remained friends which was the best thing ever! Until Samantha, his current fiancé and mother of his lovely daughter came into the picture. Not only is she extra insecure but she’s jealous and simply stupid! Sam would swear that I'm out to get “whats her’s” even though Jeff and I had been friends for about 3 years when she came into the picture. I’ve always supported his happiness and when it was clear that she wasn't comfy with our friendship it was me who got the boot. Of course I was bummed about it but I respected his decision. After a while he began to call and text but he had to be sneaky about it because if Sam would've found out she would've threatened to stop him from seeing his child. So once again we stopped being friends again for the sake of Sam. I don’t even think it occurred to Jeff about my feelings, how it felt to finally have my friend back, one that already knew the background of ppl and certain situations so I wouldn't have to explain and go thru the motions of back telling a story. There were times when I needed someone to be there for me, who understood me but I'm not seeing that Jeff ultimately only cared about himself.

I need to get this out. Its been bothering me for so long but just like Bob I see I have to let go. I wish that I didnt have to. I really want and need my friend but sometimes the things we want, just arent good for us. I’ve lost so many people, so to have to let Jeff go, really hurts me. As I get older I realize the only thing I want is for my friends to BE THERE. Nobody really understands what that means for me. Being there is so BIG to me, Im sick of disappointments but I just want someone to be the type of friend to me that I am to them. Is that really to hard to ask for? Im starting to see it is.

So Jeff, as much as I cherished our friendship and loved having you as a best friend, this is it. There can’t and wont be a coming back from this. You’ve made your choice when you choose to defend Samantha, even though she was the one who was dead wrong. I respect your decision to be with her and to make your relationship work and I sincerely hope that it works out for the best. I hope you two build a meaningful relationship filled with nothing but love, happiness and respect. Im no longer going to tolerate being disrespected by you or her, Im deciding to move on and to leave the past right there. I’ll always think back on the great times we’ve shared and how you’ve helped me to grow as a woman, a friend and a writer. Thank you.

-Tiffany/Tristan   

Well...

Sometimes what we think we want isnt exactly what we really want. Im starting to think my decision making skills arent the best thing in the World. My belief in people is non existant. I feel like I give you the rope to either do right or do wrong but after you've made your choice, Its now my turn to decide what Im going to do. I no longer have the patience to continue to give people chances, nor do I want to. I just want people to do as they say they are going to do the first time, we shouldnt have to continue to try to make things work.

Maybe I've been my own best friend for too long? Maybe I've adapted to counting solely on me for everything that I dont have the willpower to even be bothered with another human being? There are so many thought that have been going thru my mind lately that Im not sure where to start.

Excerise Jim!

Does sex play a part in your emotional attachment to someone? I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine about love & sex. I argued that sex can change your perception of a person, it can bring you closer or do the opposite. He argued that sex can only get better with practice.

Yes sex is one of those things that you have to keep working at, especially with a new love interest because everyone doesn't like the same things but I do think if the sex is good it makes you that more interested in the person. I mean it makes you want to see if your chemistry isn't just limited to the bedroom. I think you should have some sort of connection to a person before you have sex, because that enhances the way you feel about them.

I don't necessarily think sex plays a part in the attachment but I do think it makes a difference. Sex can be just sex between two ppl, but making it more than 'just sex' is the best part of any relationship. Plus what other activity can you actively get involved and have your partner join? (I mean I know there are others but are the THIS fun!)

I’m Ready

After a successful relationship at 17, then a string of broken hearts (lessons learned) maybe I'm more afraid of a relationship being successful than I am of getting hurt. We (woman) are looking for prince charming however its more likely that we’ll find prince ahole first. So what do you actually do when you really find the TYPE of man that you have always been looking for?

I'm an open book, always been. I wear my emotions on my sleeve but I'm no dummy (insider). I try to see the best in everyone, see past their flaws and mistakes, look at the man they are. For years I would see the man they wanted to become and not who they were. You cannot fall in love with who you want them to be,  its impossible. I’ve heard it all before! I look back now and shake my head at my ignorance. I cant put all the blame on them for being who they were to me because I put blinders over my eyes and allowed it. As a woman I needed to set the rules, let a man know how I was going to be treated. I set the pace but even the most vocal and opinionated female can drop the ball.

To answer my own question, When you find the type of man that you’ve been looking for you enjoy it. You put 110% of effort into making the relationship work. I know you may have some reservations about whatever but don't bring those doubts into a new situation. Go into it like its going to work, make sure you use communication. Men cannot read our minds so let them know what your feeling. Since I let go of all the feelings (negative & positive) for Bob I’ve allowed myself to heal completely without even knowing it. I looking forward to my time being spent with Fox.

Yes there's an actual person willing to deal with all my crazy! (Laughing) The more I talk to and get to know him the more I want to know. I recently texted the exes I was still communicating with and ‘cut dem off’. Why do I need to talk frequently with an ex when I know I’m not going back to that situation. Don't get me wrong I have nothing but love for them and wish them the absolutely best but my life is going in a different direction. For the first time in a while, I'm in a good place. I'm uber happy! Did you see that Fox? I have someone who not only supports me, he also encourages me to do better, pushes me, and tells me all the time shit I don't want to hear but need to. I just hope that he keeps this up even after we are out of the honeymoon stage. Now that I’ve acknowledge him to myself, I hope things continue to go as smoothly as they have been. And Fox you’ll start to hear more yes’s when you ask to take me out.

-Jonez aka SexyFace & Sexyfine

What!??

Just when I think I cant be surprised, Coco (My bff) lets the damn Tiger out of the cage! I never thought she would be telling me this but yet she did!

-Jonez

Roger that!

"You cant expect me to think like you, Cuz my life aint like yours!" -T.I.

New VS Old

I think this will always be a dilemma for people moving forward. There will always be that old love who you still love but when yall was together the timing wasnt right, then there's that new love who is doing everything right. However you know your kinda keeping a part of you back from jumping ALL the way in.

I've tried to be as honest as I possibly could because thats just me. I hate being mislead, so I try to be upfront. After Bob, I dated but nothing too serious... Now there may be something that could possibly turn serious but Im not 100% sure I want that. For the record it doesnt have anything to do with an old love only my insecurities about myself. I dont doubt that I can have a full and meaningful relationship but is that what Trist really wants?

Im so focused on the things that Im trying to pursue that Im not sure If I want to pull a man into my madness, even if he is up for the Ride that is ME!

-Jonez

Secret Indiscrections

Ok So as a human I usually mind my business, If something isnt personally affecting me I let it be. No, Im not going to do anything If I see some craziness going on but I usually keep your affairs personal. Sometimes hearing (learning) the truth is harder to accept and the person usually just turns on you. So If I see your significant out with someone who isnt you, or If I know that the lines she's feeding you are just that, or If I know your about to have a real problem... I keep it to myself. I'd rather avoid all problems and confrontations, however I know if I say something its going to blow up in my face.

I have to change names to respect their privacy.

So a few weeks ago Bubba, who is married, started hanging out with a female friend, Lola. Bubba has been spending a lot of time with Lola and his wife, Betty, know nothing about it. I dont think there's anything wrong with having friends but if your partner doesnt know about it then thats the problem. So Im assuming Bubba had to make up a few white lies about his whereabouts while he was with Lola, and I think those lies including me. Im a lil upset because I dont want to get Bubba in trouble with his wife but I dont want to lie either. Theres only BUT so many times I can use the line "I dont know" or "I dont remember". Im annoyed that Bubba would put me in this positions and even though Im mad at him, for unrelated reasons, Im not going to blow up his spot. Is that Wrong? Do I owe Betty a truthful explanation even though doing so could possibly end a marriage?

I found out that my friends fiancee who was about 3 months pregnant got an abortion. Jordan, my friend is away at school, but I highly doubt he knows anything about it. I never met his fiancee, Lisa, but I've seen photos, thats how I recognized her. I was being a friend's support system when I spotted her with my own eyes at the clinic! I know it isnt my place to say anything, and I dont think I could say anything but Lisa is telling him she lost the baby. I feel horrible and my loyalties do not lie with her but Do I stick my neck out to say something? OR Let Jordan go into a marriage with Lisa, the liar?

Decisions, Decisions

Jonezster

He loves me!

So a fan of mine wrote me a poem. How sweet right? Well thanks Mike!

A touch, soft and tender.
A whisper, full of desire
A gasp of sweet surrender
As passion fuels the fire

No words spoken between them
No promises to be kept
No lies being told tonight
No looking back - no regrets

Longing to hold each other
Such precious little time
Both vowed to another
Being lonely their only crime

Tomorrow bringing sorrow
A brief moment of shame
With the memory of this one night
A release from passion's flames

she got a mean shoe GAME!

I've been drooling over these shoes for the past week! Damn you Aldo!

Laid Off?

So Im at work right now when I'd rather be elsewhere. The other ppl who are supposed to be here, ARENT. But thats no surprise, its like my coworkers cant seem to get to work on time even if there life depended on it.

Anyway I've been here since 3 on the dot, but this guy that I absoultely hate to the core is here too! Ugh, when I say I cant stand NOTHING about this man believe it. He had the nerve to tell my supervisor that there wasnt any staff in the office, even though I've been sitting in my seat since 3. So she just called my phone, asking if Im not coming in... HELLO! IM ALREADY HERE! I've been saying that this dude is a liar and he just proved my point. I seriously cannot stand that man, like Dont you think the supervisor was going to call me and confirm my location. Im telling you, dude is very lucky Im in a good mood, because I wouldve cursed his as$ straight out.

Its like this job is middle school all over again. However since IVE grown up Im not just going to knock his as$ out, Imma chill. But... If he keeps playing with me I wont be responsible for where he is found.

Jonez

Dreamers.

Dont be afraid to dream the impossible, try it out, fail and then dream all over again. You lose the battle when you stop dreaming & stop trying.

Currently Im dreamin of... becoming a nail tech, then opening my own beauty bar. I talked about this before but Im back on the trail. There has been so many things I LOVE but had to put aside because of something else that I was dreaming.

I dont think its failing, I just have a wide range of things I know Im great at and dont I owe it to myself to explore every possible option?

-Jonez

Less than 24 hrs.

Im not sure whats really good with men now a days but Im not really feeling it. When I was talking to Bill it seemed like if we didnt have sex in 24 hrs, his peen would blow off! I know that because technology makes it that much easier to get to know a person, we feel like with the right amount of nicely answered text messages that we fully know a person. Well thats effin wrong! I need to hang out with you, vibe with you and vice versa. What makes you think that Im even going to want to do ANYTHING with you after knowing you for less than 24 hrs? Im not!

So I recently met this guy, and no its nothing to be excited about. It was like I just meet him and a couple of hours later hes asking me "If I think we'd make a good match". Im confused because I JUST met you! I have absolutely no idea if we'd make a good match or if we'd even become friends. I dont know anything about you to make even a simple decision about your personality or even your mental stability. So how on earth would I be able to tell you if we'd make a good couple. I was tempted to ask you the same question but I already figured you'd say yes and have us married off in three months with a baby five months after that.

Of course I want someone who wants to be in a committed relationship. Yes I want a hunny but I want to take my time in getting to know him. I dont see a reason to rush into something that Im going to end up regretting because I have no hesitations dumping you and starting my search over. But fellas for the future, Im going to need yall to relax with trying to boo a chick up less than 24 hrs! (laughing but so serious)

Misery

Im not sure who I feel more sorry for... Bob or #2.

For those of you who are just joining us on Tristanjonez.blogspot, Bob is my ex boyfriend of two yrs ago, I know, and #2 is his girlfriend/exgirlfriend. She goes by #2 on here because she shares my 'real' first name and since I consider myself the original... well you get it. Anyway, like I was saying Im not sure who to feel more sorry for. Its a twisted love triangle, well no not triangle, more like a love circle because Bob still tries to get back with me but Im 110% done with that situation. In my heart I know I will prolly never get back with that man, I've lost all trust and respect for him when he cheated. I forgave him yrs ago BUT I cant move on WITH him. However no matter how much I tell him this, he still believes theres a 1% chance that we will eventually work it out.

Then theres #2, She seems like she still wants to be with Bob, but they supposedly broke up. I dont believe it for a minute, due to actions I said I would keep to myself but that right there lets me know that all is semi well. I mean I wouldnt do THAT for a man who I wasnt still in love with. Ya'll remember when she hit my cell phone telling me things going on in their relationship? Well if its true that he was cheating on you and being abusive why would you even want to put it all on the line for him? I dont care if you have 10 kids, there is a lid for every top and u cant make something work that just isnt. What makes matters worst is I KNOW he is telling her some bullish about the relationship. How do I know because he tells me! Honestly thats the main reason why I'd never go back, how can I trust that you wont be telling #2 intimate things about our relationship? Since I cant trust that you wont, I cant rock with you.

I love a bad bish! I love a chick who can hold her OWN down and dont need a man to give her money to get to work! I love a woman who lives life by her own rules, and If a man isnt handling his business she knows how to let him go and move on to the next one. If #2 is playing him for a fool, then go ahead hunny and do ya thing but remember Karma is soooo effin real! If they have an understanding that they are going to see other people and just screw each other, then my hat goes off to them both. However Im not convinced!

I just wish he stopped inviting me into his relationship. None of what he is going now is any of my concern. My #1 concern is his brother, Isaiah. If it wasnt for Zaya, Bob would not be in contact with me, cuz my number would've been changed. Im learning how to be a bigger person through and through but I do wish both Bob & #2 nothing but the best of luck in everything they do.

-Jonezster

Mardi Gras 2011

So Yall had to know this was coming?! As much as I talk about New Orleans, you had to have guessed that I would be travelling there in the coming months. I mean research can only do so much until you feel like you know the city, so I have to put my {vast} knowledge of the city to the test.

Gosh, its like I can taste the food and hear the music. Yup, I do think I might be going crazy but I dont care. I have immersed myself so deep into the culture that I think its taken over my senses. I was supposed to be going to the N.O. with my coworkers but I cant say for sure thats going to happen. You know I love being solo so its only befitting that I either go alone or mainly stay to myself. Only time will tell what will happen.

-Tristan

Never mix Biz with friendship

A hard lesson I learned was NOT to be friends with coworkers. Its hard for people to separate work with personal feelings. I've had good friendships come out of being a coworker but the older I get the more I realize that ish is for the birds. Im tired of being myself and ppl not knowing how to deal with me. I mean yes Im an acquired taste but you have to accept the good with the bad. Especially if Im doing my part in accepting the things (Sometime the stupid as hell things)that you do. I've been holding back sooo much that I could say because we are/were friends. Now that I no longer consider you a friend, you'll just go back to being that nameless, non existent being.

Good luck!

Jonez

My Mister

Well I made a promise to a friend of mine that I would never write about him on my blog but there are things that I really want to get out into the open. I've recently spoken to him about airing out his laundry and surprisingly he has given me the ok. I just think he wants to know my deepest darkest secret about how Im actually really feeling about him. Now since he is so eager to read, Im going to take that much longer getting out EVERYTHING. Plus I dont string him along in person BUT I can on here!! (laughing)

Obviously I never use people's real name just because, so for my 'baby' Imma call you MyD, pronounced 'Mighty'. So let me give yall a lil background on MyD, we met through a mutual friend last summer and just clicked. (He's a leo) We talked and hung out through the summer into the fall but kinda lost touch because he went back to school and I was planning for the move to LA. Plus I kinda got mad at him for something and made a very rude comment he just couldnt move on from. So after Sept, we really didnt talk as much except for hi and bye. It wasnt until pretty recent, that we both hit each other up and just was ready for a fresh start with each other.

Now this is supposed to be the part where Im extremely honest about how I feel but Imma hold off on that til later. However I will say, Im feeling MyD, hes smart, attractive, athletic, has goals, but mostly he isnt afraid to put me in check when necessary. And I respect him because of it! Yes Im very smitten by MyD and Im not afraid to let him know. Well I kinda am thats why Im bloggin it.

Way to go Miss Jonez!

(Think)

If you dont trust the person you are with, then why are you with them?

Jonez

"Timer"

So I was watching a movie last night name "Timer" and It was a really good watch. Its basically about taking out all the guesswork of looking for your soul mate. You get a timer embedded into your wrist and it will show a countdown of when your going to meet the person you are meant to be with. Your soul mate will have the same countdown as you obviously. If something like that was invented I would def sign up for it! Why? Because it takes out all of the work of dating the wrong guys, and matches you with "your one". To some people dating is fun and it should be but when Im ready to settle down with my one, I want a guarantee that its the right one!

If you had a choice of knowing who your soul mate was would YOU want to know?

-T.Jonez

Ugh!

Im feeling so angry with my father! I may even be past angry, Im more hurt than anything to be honest. Dad makes up all these excuses as to why he hasnt did this or that instead of saying, my bad that I wasnt there when you needed me but Im here now. Sometimes I feel like Im the parent and he's the child and I have to teach him how to treat me. I have to teach him how this thing (father-daughter relationship) is going to go. He has to really understand its not going to be im calling and calling you and you dont get back to me. Im sick of hearing Im busy at work, ok so call when you get off work. Then its well your step mother is sick, ok I got it. However my stepmother is 'so sick' yet she finds the time to CALL me and see how (insert problem) is being handled so something isnt adding up. Im not going to keep callin anyone! Parent or not, Im not going to continue to do all the work and you sit back relaxing, nope not going to work.

From today on, until my father calls and apologizes for his behavior, we arent going to talk. As much as I have grown up and became an adult, Dad its time for you to do the same. Dont let your pride take over and you miss out on my life because you dont know how to admit when your wrong.

-Jonez

Wake up!

Isnt there a quote similar to 'God bless the woman who has her own'? I think thats the best piece of advice that anyone could've given to me. However like many people my age I had to go thru the fire before I realized I was burned. So many of my friends are living with their significant others and for most of them, not only will the relationship not work out but they'll prolly end up homeless. People you have to remember that anything that can go wrong will go wrong so protect yourself!! Sometimes you have to be selfish and put urself first in a relationship. I do wish that I could give the knowledge I have to someone else so they'd be able to learn from my mistakes. However I know thats impossible, sometimes I want people to learn from their OWN mistakes. Please give love a chance BUT, dont lose your effin mind and then blame it on being in love.

Tristan Jonez

He must be trippin'

Sometimes I think my father is the smartest guy on the planet and then others I think he is the dumbest, and today is one of those days. Maybe Im just not getting where he is coming from in his advice, or maybe he just says the first thing that comes to his mind without really thinking. To be honest I dont know and wont know because Im not currently talking to him. I didnt mean to be rude to him and hang up the phone but I couldnt take anymore of the bullish he was talking.

I've decided to go back to school to finish getting my degree and pursue teaching. The thing is the classes are at night BUT I work at night so thats obviously a problem. I cant be at two places at once so something has to give, and that would be my job. Luckily I dont have to quit right away but eventually Im going to have to. My dad's gonna tell me I just need to stay at my job!! Like umm stay until when? This is just a job, granted there are people who dont have a job but I cant just settle for this. Im comfortable but change is always good and isnt life about taking chances. No Im not just going to quit without having a job lined up, I do have an apt and a doggie I have to take care of but still a lil support would've been nice.

-Jonez

Special Announcement!

Hopefully this will be the last posting about this (I doubt it) but I have to get this off my chest. As a female I know that sometimes we can let our emotions make a fool of us BUT when the truth is clear as day in front of your face you cant ignore it. Ladies please stop chasing after these men that clearly dont want you! A persons actions speak much louder & clearer than words, so if he isnt giving you the type of love or attention you require why continue on? Ok ok, I know I sound a lil harsh but look at it from my point of view, I see my friends being treated poorly and theres nothing I can do about it. I try to limit my opinion because I dont want to create a rift in the friendship, but I do get tired of hearing about all thats wrong in your relationship.

If a man wants to change and be all the things you want him to be, he will only do that IF HE WANTS TO! Theres nothing in this world or even the next world that you can do to make him change his ways. Yes you should accept his flaws along with the qualities you love about him but If you're settling just so that you can say you have a man, then thats pathetic! Yes you can have a life without being someone's girlfriend. I may not be the best example but hey look at me! I dont have a boyfriend but Im not just sitting on my hands at home. No I date... alot! Im happy maintaining different levels of friendship with different guys. And No sex hasnt been introduced with any of the guys, hell they are free to sex whomever they choose except for me. I have an idea of what I want and I havent really found the unavoidable spark in any of them so Im going to keep dating and having a good time until I find the one Im looking for.

Ladies I just want whats best for you and sometimes a person on the outside can see better, your vison is blurred {tainted} because what you feel. Im always here if you ever need to talk just call on me.

-Jonez

Stupid is as Stupid does.

Im really starting to believe that people are dumb on purpose. That making the right decisions or even the ones that make the most sense are the furthest from their minds. It truly puzzles me when the most obvious and practical choice is there to be made but its, of course, not!

As I get older I tend to be more picky about the people I choose to let into my World, and I think I need to get even more pickier. I applaud diversity and I love when someone doesnt think the same as I do BUT I hate a complainer. There is very little I regret, especially when Im the one who is making the decisions. And how can I regret anything when Im the one 'driving the car'? Im just tired of hearing about the consquences of choices made when you knew beforehand what those conquences included!

Either Change 'it' or shut the eff up!

-Jonez

The New Approach

Now remember the other day, I informed yall about how I was still single (Still loving it) but I was kinda chatting with someone. I was prolly bloggin about something shady he had done but I think I may have judged him prematurely. Lets call him... Bill. Well Bill already told me how much he "wanted me, in every way", yes that kinda freaked me out a lil, but I was like Imma hear him out. He also made it clear that he wanted to 'sample' (<--- Really?) the goodies. After I made it clear that he wouldnt even get a whiff of them, he toned down the over sexual comments.

Today he surprised me by texting me asking about how my day was going. He even said 'goodnight' last night before I went to bed. With me its the little things that count the most. I could care less what or if your even driving, Hell I take the train. Usually when I shut a man down for sex, he leaves me alone! And thats quite alright, then you have the others that will keep telling you what they think you want to hear, etc, but Im getting off topic. Bill isnt in my good graces as of yet, he still has a long way to go but the fact that hes trying makes me smile, takes him off of my $hit list.

-Jonez

Me {vs} You

Now I've never been the most confident person growing up but over the years I've learned to build that up. And during the times when Im not feeling confident at all I fake it! Yup I put my acting skills to the limit. I never had the mentality that I was any better than the next person, we all have our great qualities and some of us just know how to use that to an advantage.

When its me against you, just know that I will always win. Always! Why? Because I know the rules of the game and I can play it better than you. Im straight up and all the way real, and I dont need tricks to prove my point, whatever the point may be. I know for some readers, this will be out of left field but for who this is meant for it will make perfect sense. Sometimes it feels like my kindness is so often taken for a weakness but lets be clear, Im not a weak person. I just dont believe in knocking someone when their down. KARMA IS REAL!

I know I dont look like it but Im a TRUE survivor. I've been thru it all and yet I continue to come out on top. Take a minute to think about why that is, why is it that no matter what type of situation Tristan is put in, she always comes out the winner. Its because I know how to keep my cool. The best advice I have ever received was "Never let them see you sweat", and I havent. Trust me, there have been plenty (!!) of times where I wanted to cry, scream, lash out, etc but I knew all eyes was on me, and if I wouldve cracked they would've gotten the ultimate satisfaction. I cant allow my misery to be the boost your sucky life needs to feel good, Nope! So even if I have to cry my eyes out in the bathroom of work, thats what I'll do but I bet when I walk back into the office, I'll have my nothingeverhappenedsmile.

-Tristan

Just remember when your planning your attack, do your homework thoroughly. It will def save a lot of time and energy in the long run! ;-)

We Jammin' & havin' Fun!!

OMG! Im seriously in love with this series. I know I had written it off as another seriously bad series about New Orleans but I was Wrong! The first episode was terrible, like wtf? But I suffered thru it and viewed the second episode and was hooked! Plus I couldnt get the theme song out of my head (Down' in the Treme')

The characters are so well drawn out, that Im kinda upset that there arent anymore episodes for me to watch, there were only 10. Im that much more interested in New Orleans culture and the after math effect of Hurricane Katrina. Oh Im sorry, thats what the focus of the series is, Hurricane Katrina. Watch the show!!! I found myself, laughing and most times crying at not only the storyline but the destruction of the culture due to the Hurricane.

I've lived in Baltimore for a long time and the thought of my city being destroyed breaks my heart. Im def going to be visiting the 904, and getting to learn a lot more about it. Im not just now trying to do something because I saw a tv show, NO be clear, I always follow my heart and now its leading me there!

-Jonezy

Umm No, Thats a lie!

So Im still single but Ive been chatting casually to this guy I knew growing up. So I guess because we semi grew up together he feels like he already knows me and we dont need to reacquaint ourselves again. Honestly I dont know what homeboy is thinking, but anyway! I went to his house last night, just to chill and to get out of my own house. This was my second time being there, but the first time I was there for less than ten minutes (I was running late to work.) Ok so now Im looking around, taking a much more interest in his apartment, the furniture and the photos of his (ex?) girlfriend. Ummmm Im no rocket scientist but if you and your ex is no longer together then why are there several photos of her? So I went to use the bathroom and what do I find? A bag of pads! Now as far as I know, men dont get periods. So of course I ask, his response "My ex left them and I just never threw them out."

Now of course Im like yup he's a liar and he's prolly still boning his ex. {FYI, Its quite alright to be boning your ex, or other ppl for that matter, just BE REAL WITH ME!!} Im not his girlfriend and neither was I trying to be. I was trying to get to know him to enjoy his company. As Im holding my balance, while peeing, I look up on the door and see... PANTIES!! Now once again, as far as I know men dont wear panties. Well some do but the ones I date shouldn't! So When I leave the bathroom I asked him, "Ayyo, do you know there are panties on your bathroom door?", he says "They must've gotten mixed in with the wash." The look on my face says "UMM No, That's a lie!"

Why is it that a man just cant keep it real with a female? I went home shortly after the incident but it just made me realize why Im NOT DATING!!

-Jonez

Skydiving is the NEW Black!

So while at work we was talking about the bucketlist. (A movie where two older men are dying of cancer however they write down all the things they want to do before they die) Well One of my entries on my bucketlist is to skydive! I wanted to do it for Christmas (In LA) but the instructor was sick but I have yet to go back. The convo at work made me realize that life is short and I want to live mine to the fullest.

So yes, I will be skydiving sometime in the next few weeks while the weather is nice. And please dont worry about me or tell me I could die! IF u think about it, if its meant to be it will happen regardless.

-Jonezy

Venice oh Venice!

So moving to Venice, Italy might be harder than I thought but not impossible. Theres all sorts of laws and ish, that come along with wanting to move permanently to another country. I mean yea it would be 100 times more convenient if I was marrying an Italian man but thats not happening... well not right now it isnt. Now dont get it twisted, Im still going to be travelling there in the next coming months but will I be moving there? I still have much of the US to see, so my decision is still to be determined. However there is always the possibility of studying abroad!

~Jonez

Im moving... (Again)

Venice, Italy... How've I've dreamed about you so! Isnt she a Beauty?!!

No, Thank you!

I know I dont post like I used to or even like I should but thats because I most times think nobody reads my ish. I mean I know of the people who do browse thru and find it enertaining but at times Im just like whatever! And then it happens!, I get a crazy compliment in my inbox (Gmail) and it just makes what I do worth it. Writing is one of my many forms of expression but its the one Im most known for, and I LOVE IT! I could possibly sit at home, preferrably by a fireplace, and create in my mind, then on paper.

Sometimes getting a compliment on what you do best, makes all the craziness you go thru worth it. I find myself laughing at the things ppl do because it just gives me more to write about. Yes, I can think of a million situations but to see something and base what Im writing on that, priceless. Plus when a person sees HOW you see them, it makes them think twice about their naughty behavior. And isnt that what writing/blogging all about? Creating a new perspective?!?

Tristan J

Confessions

Sometimes I feel like the main character in "Confessions of a Shopaholic", not because of my love of shopping but because I can give better advice to others than to myself. Of course it was ironic, how she was able to instruct readers how to save money or use it to its full maximum but yet she couldnt/wouldnt do the very same for herself. I've been trying to trick myself into doing the same things that I would tell a friend or even a reader to do but sometimes, no most of the times I do the opposite. THEN Im left holding the bag, like really Jonez?!?

My new improved technique is to pay everything that I need to pay the day I get paid. This technique is of course, based on if I FEEL like getting out of the bed long enough to actually go outside and do what needs to be done. {SMH} Not to mention, Im great at making budgets for my friends! Hell Im great at making them for myself, its the putting them into action that lacks motivation on my part. I do hope though, I wont get outed like the main character of "Confessions of a Shopaholic". The bill collector made a huge spectacle of her on national television!

-Jonez

How to make it in America.

"Money comes and goes, Tee shirts comes and goes but that's life!
You gotta roll with the effin punches" -Kid Cudi in How to make it in America.

The crazy thing is thats so very true. If life was broken down into how to succeed, that would be the prime example of advice. You have to roll with the punches! No matter what obstacles you're faced with 'Just roll with them'.

Jonez

she got a mean shoe GAME!

I want these!

-Jonez

GONE!

Ok, so the roommate from Hell!, is gone. She moved completely out this afternoon and took all of her things with her. It feels like a weight is lifted off of my shoulders. It sucks that a friendship is NOW dead but I mean I just have to take it as a lesson learned like my blog manager Amilcar said. So now I have my house back to myself, which feels a lil weird but comfty.

Oh and NO I dont want another roommate!

-Jonezy

Roommate from Hell!

So today I got a phone call from the cops. Seems like my roommate call them on me because I changed the locks. I had already gave PLENTY of warning of what was going to be done. I guess she just was calling my bluff. I hate the fact that some people take my kindness for a weakness, I assure you, its not. I've been more than nice about the living arrangements but when she said she was leaving in 58 days, which would've amounted to the date June 1, I was thrilled. I would finally be getting my house back, my peace of mind back.

A few days before the 1st, I texted her to find out what her plans were. I didnt/dont really care what happens after she left my house but I wanted to know that she was indeed still leaving. Really long story short, she didnt move any of her things by today so I locked the bottom lock. And No she doesnt have a key. I feel like she had 6 weeks to get her things together but she waits until today to actually want to do something? I wouldn't have locked the door If I'd known she was coming. I would have def took today off because obviously I dont trust her in my home. She failed to call or even text me letting me know when she would be coming.

As an adult I feel there are things that you should know to do. If we've already establish a date that you would be leaving why is it that you fail to honor that? And if there was some reason as to why you couldnt leave when you was supposed to, isnt it a good idea to communicate that? So she's supposed to be coming tomorrow to get her things out for good. I thinkin I should have the cops on stand by just to make sure everything goes smoothly. I'll just be happy when I no LONGER have to deal with this.

-Jonez

P.S. Friendship R.I.P

Updates!

So I know I havent written anything of substance in a while. (It seems like that is always my opening sentence.) So Im not going to apologize but just move on in hopes that you will forgive me like always.

My weekends (Sundays) have been filled with going to visit my lil brother for the past ummm two months so I find myself trying to recoup from that visit. Its VERY taxing on me mentally and physically, so I usually use Mondays (Day off)to rest and regain some sort of energy. For some people going every weekend gets to be too much but its too long of a wait if I miss a Sunday. For the time being I deal with it, plus it means a lot to him that he gets visits.

If Im not at work, Im sleep! As sad as that may sound, its very true. I spend so much time at work, that my friends have started calling me a workaholic but what can I do? I like the lifestyle I live, plus Im still furniture shopping as well as planning for future vacation spots. Unlike you, I dont have a rich daddy, and even if I did, I KNOW my dad would be a cheapy!!

Im working on getting my act (More to come) together!

-Jonez

Im a Fat Girl!

Seriously the Mickey D's on 50th & 9th ave have the BEST chicken nuggets!! I had them recently and I had to order again. I usually eat them with either Chipotle BBQ sauce or Buffalo Sauce but I didnt need any sauce to enhance the flavor. Im kinda droolin' thinking about them. Too bad its 4am, because I would def go down there right now!

Jonez

Pleasantly Plump

I cant seem to contain myself this morning. I woke up with a smile on my face! I smile for the life I lead, for the few people who I allow access into my World, for the fact that people can change and do the right thing If thats in fact what they want to do. Its so easy to get caught up in the bs of everyday living that you forget to look at the beautiful things around you. Today, thats exactly what Im going to do. Im going to enjoy my surroundings, Im going to stop and smell the flowers and I may even buy some, bring them home and just relax in the presence of nature. Life happens to flash by so quickly that Im caught trying to keep up.

As the weather starts to get nicer, take the time to do the little things. Hang outside in the park, and watch the kids play. Or walk to your destination instead of taking the train, just do things that you wouldnt normally do and I promise you, something will happen. You cant open your eyes to whats out there if your not looking.

-Jonez

Expected -> Un

So today has kinda been a "WOW' of a day. It started with my friend Kayla, she had me listen to her voicemail in which her most recent ex boyfriend was trying to yell at her about a damn phone bill. However when she told him to simply call their service provider, he said he wasnt going to do that because he knew she wasnt paying her part of the bill. Smh! Im like why not call Sprint and have all this confusion cleared up without having to go back and forth between each other. I figure the dude just wants to have a reason to call, instead of stating his purpose and moving on. I think sharing a bill with your partner can turn out to be one of the most annoying things ever! I've been there, done that and would advise anyone not to go down that route.

Then, I get two texts from my man friend telling me he cant be what I want and expect him to be. I had to reread the texts twice because I couldnt for the life of me understand where that ish was coming from. I've made it my business to not have expectations of folks because that just leads to disappointment, so when he said that I knew something was up. Instead of him being a man and saying that he no longer wanted to be my friend, or that he was dealing with someone else, he choose to take the coward way out. I mean how can I respect that? After that I deleted him, fb, phone, etc, but then he has a nerve to feel that was effed up! Like seriously?

Lastly, Its raining!

-Jonez

Spoil ME, Spoil ME!

Hey people, Obviously I believe every once in a while a person deserves to be spoiled! I mean especially if you are working a full time job, going to school and doing just about everything in between, and all for yourself. I really doesnt matter if your a man or a woman, both genders deserve to be pampered and NOT by ya damn self! Of course I can run myself a bubble bath, cook myself dinner, give myself a pedicure or manicure, but theres something different, special when you have someone else who wants to do those things for you! I cant remember the last time that someone took the time to do anything for me, without me having to ask. If the shoe was on the other foot, and it usually is, I would do a mountain of things for you. Whether you was THAT special or not. Just last week I sent my bestfriend Tracy a card, my niece Esse a gift set from Soaptopia.com and my lil brother a gift for obtaining his GED. I didnt need to be asked to do these things, I did them because I wanted to enhance someone's day, week or whatever.

I dont want to get flowers or gifts for my birthday, give me those things on the most random day you could possibly think of. I want to feel the same way I make others feel. I already know that people arent me, so the things I would do they may not however, think of things you want done for you and do that to/for someone else. This weekend, Im going to be getting spoiled but by my own account and that's just fine. Sometimes when others havent picked up on the clue, screw it, Spoil yourself!

Jonezster

Milk Carton?!

Kid Cudi WHERE ARE YOU???

While listening to the new album of B.O.B., My mind wandered to Kid Cudi, and what hes up to right now. I know he was in the series on HBO, 'How to make it in America" but that has been since wrapped. If you see him or hear of any new projects he has going on, hip me to it!!! I miss you Kid!

-Jonezster

Its Jonezster!

Ok So I know you're wondering why on Earth did I change my blog name, Well I changed it because certain folks was trying to bring me down. This is MY blog, so I get to write whatever I choose to, if you dont like the things I write about thats ok, you do not have to venture over to my side of the World. I've always been very opinionated and I think Im going to stay that way. I write about the things I see, experiences, my future, and whatever else I choose to write about. I know I shouldn't have to change the name of my blog or the content either however Im a lil tired of the prying eyes. And yes I know, the more I put myself out there, there are always going to be critiques but as of right now I can shield myself from the bs.

Over the weekend, my stupid a$s ex, Bob, hit me up talking all kinds of foolishness. Like dude, Im not longer your girlfriend so I dont have to answer any questions that you may have about anything. Im not sure why he even still have my number like dude, your dead to me. (I'll let yall know more about that situation) But I was just tired of him, and others, having the privilege of a window into my Life. From now on his access has been denied.

-The Jonezster

she got a mean shoe GAME!

she got a mean shoe GAME!

These shoes are my ode to the '80's and the days of wearing platform shoes and being groovy!! Even though the US was goin thru many changes, it seemed like a lot of people were just rocking out and enjoying life, we need to get back to that state of mind... And without getting high! Cop these at Bakers shoes, retail about 60$ and come in four colors.

Yes man?

I've never been a 'yes man', Ive always been my own person. I choose to tell you how Im feeling but I word it in a way to be wary of your feelings. I think people need more 'friends' around that are willing to tell the truth and not just say something because at that moment it sounds good. Im going to be your friend regardless, whether I like what you're saying or not. I have to accept my flaws with my good qualities. Im just tired of people acting like Im cursing their name when I tell them the truth and not just feed them some bs. Maybe if you surround yourself with true friends, you'll have less of the problems that you usually end up having. Just sayin'

Jonez

Love like You!

Yooooo Im so elated right now. My little brother wrote me again, I mean we write each other often, its our routine. We chose to write each other over phone calls because its a bit more intimate and most times you cant say everything you want to say in person. Sometimes out of not having the exact words but most times out of fear. You don't want the person to judge you on the spot and if they are going to judge you'd rather not be there for it. So basically we're pen pals, but Im not going to go into how we are siblings, just know & understand that we are. So I've been enjoying getting to know my little brother, its been a joy!! I can be depressed, upset, angry, all the negative emotions but then I get a phone call or a letter from Isaiah and my world is instantly better. We do hang out often and I have the best time with him, its gotten to a point that the silence between us is comfortable. Just to be in his company puts my own mind at ease. I get so emotional when its time for me to go home but its those times that I treasure him the most.

In the letter I received today I (almost) cried! I mean Zaya is just so sweet and sincere and brutally honest with me. Its funny because Im the older sibling but yet he treats me as if Im his younger sister. He can be very over protective! I think growing up I've always wanted that. Someone who would stick up for me and keep people in check when they was bothering me on the playground. Yes, I know you're thinking but you do have an older sister, but my sister is 12yrs older than me and definitely wasnt checking for me. She was living her own life and still to this day it shows just how not close we are in our relationship. My sister and I are more like strangers who just happened to be blood related AND for the record I dont have any animosity towards her just dont regard her as much more than a familiar stranger.

Its like Im finally getting the sibling relationship that I've always wanted, needed. I adore my little brother and I cant wait until he moves back from Upstate because I will be spending all of my free time with him. Theres so much of the World that I want to show him. Plus Zaya is like a sponge, he WANTS to soak up Everything. I love being the older, more experienced big sister but he lets me know that its him who is in Charge!! (Laughing)

-Jonez

P.S. I love you just as much as you love me Isaiah. And my promise still stands! xoxo

First come Marriage, Then the baby!

So its true, as you get older you start to think about things that normally you wouldnt consider like getting married and having a family. Since I was 4 I told my dad I would never get married or have children. Well I got pregnant in *08, so much for that! However I've still never been married. Yes I've been proposed to by two different men in my lifetime, and obviously nothing materialized out of that. I've always been selective in the type of guys that I choose to date but I think now that Im looking for something long term, I just got even more selective. I dont necessarily mean to be BUT I want someone who's going to be here for the very long road a head.

I just finished talking to my lil brother Isaiah, and he told me he's sending a mother's day card since I want to be a mother. I actually had to laugh at that! I mean I do want the whole marriage, baby thing but Im not in a rush to get those things. I know they will come in due time and Im learning how to be patient. It just caught me off guard that my baby brother would send me something like that, maybe I have been talking about it more than I realized.

I think Im a lot more aware of the things I want to do and the place in my life I want to be. Especially if Im thinking of baby things and being a wife. Maybe its true as you get older you think of different things. I mean at one stage of my life I was thinking of proms and graduations and at another dating and partying, I figure Im just at the stage in my life where wedding bells and crumb snatchers (babies) just make the most sense.

T.Jonez

Dont you Deserve better?

As much as it pains me to sit back and not say anything, thats exactly what Im going to do. I hate the fact that I cant be 100% honest with you. However I do value the friendship that we have. I know that if I let you know exactly how I feel about your boyfriend you arent going to like what I have to say about him. I mean I know you like that Im blunt and I express how Im feeling but if it was something that could possibly hurt your feelings would u want me to share?

As much as I want to shield you from the World and of things that can and will hurt you I cant make you the woman I want you to be. I have to let you live your life in the manner that YOU see fit. All I can do is encourage you to do better and support the choices you've made. I just hope that my silence doesnt get confused for acceptance. But after you've vented all your frustrations to me, dont you think you deserve better?

Tristan

This is NOT a test

Ok people, I know I havent written in a few days so please forgive me?? I've been busy living life, and learning a lot of new life lessons. I have a few things on my chest and I wouldnt be who I am if I didnt ruffle your feathers. Now, Lets keep in mind that none of the things I write are to hurt anyone's feelings. This blog is more of a way to inform people of things that they themselves may not be able to see clearly about themselves. AND for the record, if anyone would like to create a blog on things that I myself do not see clearly about myself then please feel free to do so and I'll take numerous notes on your honest opinions.

-Jonez

she got a mean shoe GAME!

Rachel Roy's design, retail at about 130$ and also come in Black.
Enjoy!

New K(ick)s on the Block

Ok I know its been years (not literally) since I've done a posting on sneakers BUT I need the help of my readers. My niece, Ladybug, wants these sneakers however I've looked online and I cannot find them, in her size, anywhere. Im planning on going to Niketown this week and I might hit up some skateboarders shops just to cover all ground. The sneakers are Stefan Janoski SB

Jonez!
Now dont say you're going to help me look then flake out people!!

she got a mean shoe GAME!

Even though I dont usually like Rachel Roy, I do like her shoes. These are already sold out except for a size 6, they retail at $109.

Jonez

Mother knows Best?

During the time I've dated a few of my ex's I've had the pleasure of being accepted by their mothers. I mean Its only been a few people who I've been in a serious relationship with so I havent had to impress a lot of mothers but thats just my personality. Its sooooo much better when you can actually hold a meaningful conversation that includes his family members. As much as I value my time alone with the guy Im seeing, that time with him is enhanced when the family is involved.

In a past relationship my ex's mother wasnt all that receptive towards me. Dont get me wrong, I dont think that she didnt like me, I think she was still attached to his former girlfriend. And... thats normal, of course. I mean after he spent time with his ex its only normal that after a while, his family members would get attached to her. Im still attached to my cousin's ex girlfriend even though they are no longer together. I still act like she's my cousin in law (Is that a term?) because I've grown to like her and yes he has moved on with someone else. I wouldnt treat the new gf anything other than pleasant but B is still my number one pick.

Im laughing now thinking about an ex's mother whom we've had an interesting relationship. In the beginning, she liked me, we talked but things started to change after an event happened. Things were strained but I continued to be the person I am and soon enough things were back to normal. Time has past and I've recently spoke to her and she STILL makes me laugh at the crazy things she says. I wonder too if she's treating the new girlfriend nicely? I know she has a place for me in her heart and she'll always be a friend but I think she SHOULD take the time to get to know the new girl. I guess she's secretly hoping that her son and I will get back together. However in order for that to happen I'd have to move back to Baltimore and I dont see that happening no time soon. Plus he says his happy with her and as a friend I have to respect his choice in a girlfriend. I just want him to be happy and frankly thats not going to happen with me, we arent at the same place we was when we was together, which is a good thing. We have to grow right?

But in the back of my mind I do wonder if "Mother Knows Best?"

Jonez

Handcuffin'

Alright, Alright, I already know that Summer will upon us sooner than later however I think (keyword) that I want a boyfriend. I know I've been preaching the importance of knowing who you are as individual first, but I know who I am as a person. I've been single for two yrs just about. Yes I've went on some dates and got to know a few people but now Its time to really put in the work to make someone that one for me. Please save the talk about it being summer and my time to hang out with multiple someones but I've been there and done that for the past two summers. And I should ask its been VERY fun, hell I even had a boo thang (or two) while in Los Angeles. Shout out to my Greggy!

However this is different, I want to be in a situation with another person. Im ready, 100% ready to put in the necessary actions to show someone else that I actually want to be with them. I know Im saying all this when the truth is Im not dealing with anyone... yes I have friends whom I hold conversation with. And yes maybe someone might (keyword) have caught my eye but just who that is, I'll keep to myself. The point is Im ready to be someones girlfriend... I think! (Laughing)

Jonez baby!

where'd you cop them? (Excessories Edition)

This season and going into the next its all about the flirty, floral, tribal prints. I've vowed never to wear a dress but as I get older I find myself longing to show my legs! So here are a couple of dresses from Nordstroms that Im sure will be seen this summer.

Oh and all the dresses are under 150$

she got a mean shoe GAME!

Im in need of some spring shoes but Im so used to my sneakers that I dont even know if I really want to buy some. However its my duty to continue to bring shoes that will help your ongoing collection. These shoes are Carlos Santana but I cant help but to remember these first appeared in last year collection for Steve Madden. Im having the worst time tryin to find the shoes but even still I love these shoes! Enjoy

Jonez

Oh and the price point is about 90$

she got a mean shoe GAME!

I dont think theres nothing to be said. Just cop them from Nordstroms!

Jonez

she got a mean shoe GAME!

Nordstroms are always the first place I'd look for shoes because they are pretty much always on point. These retail for about 275$.

Jonez

The Last Song

It breaks my heart to know that something I write could possibly affect someone else. I always thought that THIS blog was my own, to write as freely as I felt necessary. I have always had to censor myself around different people, but my blog was the one place where I could/would talk about ANYTHING I wanted. I respect anyone's opinion, esp if its different from my own. If everyone was a "yes man" how boring would the World become? Discussions fuel change, or at least I can only hope they do.

Unfortunately the recent events have caused me to realize not everything can be used for good and as much as I love having my thoughts broadcast to a wider audience, I think this is going to be the last posting thats streamed directly to Facebook. (I apologize to you Esse Mae) I know for the few who read my words and draw something positive, it'll be a bummer but Im still on blogger doing my thing. Ive known when its time to do what needs to be done and this is one of those times. Ive had many blogs on different networking sites so dont worry, I'll continue to ruffle people's feathers for the things I write. I mean what good author always agrees with their fan base?

Everyone who's made comments and supported me on facebook, I wholeheartedly thank you for helping me to grow as an artist and person. To those who have been there, my success is due in partly to you! Luvz ya.

Tristan Jonez

And yes you can still hit me up on blogger at TRISTANJONEZ.BLOGSPOT.COM
Look out for a few more projects that Im working on.

Hugz and Kisses!

Only If Only

I learned a lil bit of information today, that kinda made me say hmm. My lil brother called me right before I jetted off to work. Usually he only calls during the weekend but there are a few exceptions. I would like to think of it as the closer we become the more he wants to speak to me. I love that he wants to call, talk to me, write letters, send photos, etc, It just lets me know that Im obviously doing something right.

So as some of you may or may not know, my lil brother and I arent blood related. I, at one point, dated his older brother but that relationship didnt work out. However I had already promised my lil brother that I would be here for him. So I could'nt just turn my back on him even though the relationship had fallen apart. So its been a good two years and change that Bob and I have been broken up and I can finally say, IM OVER HIM! Yes I know it took a lil while but yup I've did it.

Im starting to think my lil brother wants us back together. I mean its kinda like a kid who's parents go thru a divorce. Even though he knows that will never happen, he still wishes for it. Zaya, my lil brother, told me of a dream he had today, the dream was Bob and I going to see him together. I told him we can still hang out with him together but as friends, why do we have to be involved? I know he loves his brother very much and want to see him happy but hes forgetting a BIG piece of info... his brother has a girlfriend now.

Zaya and I dont know the official status of their relationship but either way its really no concern of mine. I cant worry about who my ex is currently sleeping with, Im pretty sure he wouldn't be concerned about minor details of my life. I know for a fact that only thing he would be concerned with is that Im treating Zaya right and doing all the things I said I would do. So even though my biggest joy is making my lil brother happy, I unfortunately wont be able to make his dream a reality.

Tristan J

where'd you cop them?

I dont want to be a fan of boat shoes but thats nearly impossible due to the overwhelming amounts of retailers making them. These are from converse but Im sorry I forgot how much they retail for.

where'd you cop them? (Excessories Edition)

So when I look at this clothing line I instantly think of my friend Chandice. I just hope that she likes it as much as I do or she'll be very upset with me. Now the clothing line is Tripp NYC but its basically things you can wear out, to clubs and what not. To me its a mix between goth, burlesque and girly. Enjoy!

Jonez

Parents just DONT Understand.

I know that most parents believe they are making the right decisions when it comes to their children but guess what? Sometimes even YOU can be wrong. Its a lil disheartening because things can turn out differently if the parent just listens. Im not going to say a child is always right but they arent always wrong either. Communication is more than barking out instructions on what someone else should be doing. God gave us two ears and one mouth so that we would listen twice as much as we talk.

I mean you remember growing up and thinking your parent never listened to anything you had to say about things that directly affected you. It felt like you was sitting front row to your life but didnt have a say so in directing it. The relationship with my own mother was the greatest I could've EVER asked for. She took the time to listen to me and to give me a lot of freedom. I did the right thing with the freedom I was given and thats why I didnt have a curfew or other things that my family may have believed was necessary. I made good grades, participated in after school activities and did whatever else was required for me to continue to hold onto my freedom. Of course I was a kid and maybe had a drink or went somewhere I wasnt supposed to but you cant shield your child from everything. And the more you try to the more their curiosity peaks.

Sometimes to be a better parent you have to take directions (suggestions) from your own children. IF you've instilled the differences between right and wrong sometimes you have to trust in their judgement. If nothing else then trust in your parenting skills.

Tristan J

she got a mean shoe GAME!

I think these are sooooo hawt! Paired with short shorts and a peasant top and you have a simple yet, poppin outfit.

Jonez

Looking to the Stars

This is my horoscope for today and I decided to post it because it makes the most sense for how Im currently feeling. Im constantly looking for my place in the World. Always looking for what Im supposed to be doing. Lately, I've been feeling the writing bug crawling up my leg these past few days. I've just been trying to calm my mind down a bit to actually focus on ONE set of characters. Maybe we'll see some progress in the next few days. Also my lil brother has been pushing me to write some more, he keeps sayin how good it is and that I need to go HARD. I think its time I took his advice! (Smiling)

Your horoscope for April 10, 2010
Freedom is likely to be a big theme for you, Tiffany. Now you are beginning to question: what is it you are trying to free yourself from? A person? A job? A commitment? Ironically these may be the very things you start searching for immediately after you free yourself from them. Trying to figure out what you want and need in your life is sometimes easier said than done. Don't get hung up on one particular concept. Do your best to take things one step at a time.

TRISTAN JONEZ

Baby!

{Singing}

"Baby when I used to love you, theres nothing that I wouldnt do"... thats cuz I was living in a effin bubble. Then one day the bubble burst!

Bonus Points if you know who sings this song...

Tristan J

she got a mean shoe GAME!

Ok, so I know I may have dropped the ball with the last mean shoe game but they really look nice on the actual foot. But these make up for it! Im feeling the color, and the front slip knot. Enjoy!

Jonez

she got a mean shoe GAME!

Ive been really looking for vacation shoes lately so these would go excellent with some white shorts and maybe a polka dot top. They retail at Nine West for I think 89$

Jonez

Anguish

Definition Anguish:
Suffer great pains or distress
Extreme mental distress
Cause emotional Anguish or make Miserable

I wonder if people knew the actual amounts of anguish they caused would they stop doing whatever it was that was causing pain? Im so convinced that people, obviously, only care about themselves. What pains me the most is that Im not that type of person. Everyday I wake up and wish that I was though. I wish that I could dump all of my responsibilities onto someone else, that I could just wake up and have not have to do the things that are very necessary. I think I've been more than pleasant in my actions and now Im done. Im done being nice and understanding, that ish is out of the window. If you cannot respect who I am and the things I've done for you then you need not be in my World.

I refuse to be taken advantage of any longer! Just as I can be nice & warm, I can be the nastiest individual you've ever met. Im a firm believer in Karma, so I try to resist being "That" person but please dont push me.

-Jonez

Not my EFFIN goodies

Hello MEN!! If you honestly want something, anything from a female then you have to put in the work. Im sorry you cant just be like "Yo I wanna Screw" and think that statement is going to get you the type of girl you are looking for in the long run. And guess what? Im not that type of girl. Any and every BS line you can think to give me, I've prolly given it to someone else. I grew up a tomboy, thinking like a boy,and watching the way guys handle and spoon fed females lines after lines. Im not the gullible kind, blame growing up in Bmore for that.

It just annoys me that guys think this type of tactic will work on me... I assure you it wont. If you really want to "do" me, then you need to screw my mind first. If you DONT go a different route, you'll be walking in tiresome circles. Please take heed to the advice I give, it will save you time and energy.

OH and If Im telling you in plain english, Im not going to do anything with you, Dont take it as a challenge.

Tristan Jonez

According to Jonez

Dear Jonez,
My ex broke up with me a yr ago he has a girlfriend but tells me that he still has feelings for me.....now u dnt know what to do bcuz I always loved him n my feelings never changed.... I had somewhat two other relationships after him which didn't last long... Maybe it was bcuz physically I was tryna move on but my heart soul n mind was still with him.he told me that if I give him that chance to make it up to me for all the cheating he would show that he's changed for the best n how he doesn't love the person he's with now cuz she gets mad cuz all he does is talk about me... I want him back so bad but I'm so confused..I think about will it work will he actually leave her alone will he cheat on me again or do he just want me back bcuz now I play like I don't care..... Please help!!!!!!!
-R

Dear R,
Im not sure going back to him should be the move you make right now or in the near future. I know it sucks (Royally) to not be with the person you love the most but he made his choice when he cheated on you. You said "All the cheating", so Im assuming it was more than once? Ignorance is bliss until you find out what your significant other is doing behind your back. Do you think he would take you back if he knew you cheated on him multiple times?
Your ex is wrong for expressing his feelings to you when he still has a girlfriend. If he doesnt want to be with the one he is with then why is he with her? I seriously doubt his girlfriend is forcing him to stay with her. I dont know him to know if he is truly a changed man but it doesnt seem so.
After a break up, its crucial to take time to be single and enjoy that time alone. Being single isnt a curse, its def a blessing because you dont have to deal with anyone's emotions besides your own. You have to give yourself time to be able to move on. After my own break up I took about a year and half to be single. As much as I wanted to have a bf and be with my ex I knew I needed to put my own emotions in check.
I think if you have all these questions about how life would be with him again, then maybe you should think twice about letting him back into your life. Your heart may not be able to handle a break up and I would hate that. Sometimes the emotional damage will become a pattern for the next relationships you will have. I dont think your ex is trying right now. If he really wanted to be with you, then he would be trying to court you. He would be SINGLE, he would be trying to take things slowly, get to know you again, making plans for movies, and dinner and just showing you hes different. Anyone can talk a good talk but the proof is in his ACTIONS.
I would def hold off on making him your boyfriend, hell I would even stop talking to him for a while. Right now your focus should only be on you and making yourself better. Trust me, the right man will come along when you least expect it and sweep you off your feet. However he cant do that, if your still holding a dirty broom (Your Ex)

-Tristan Jonez

No usually means No?

Im not sure how annoyed I am. I can usually tell people in degrees but today I cant. Lets just say its produced its own headache. So since my friend Kayla has been telling me I need to meet new people and stop being so antisocial, thats what Ive been trying to do. The other day an old friend came back into my life, I thought it would be nice to get to know them again since we've been out of touch for a few years. However since I've been reconnecting he's kinda been pressuring me to become sexual with him. I've said NO, numerous times but its like Im not speaking at all. Dude even went as far as to say I cant stop him from doing what he's going to do... I was like ok, well then your going to rape me?

And this is the reason I walk with my ipod blasting. I dont want to have to deal with people who think women are only here for their amusement. Why cant I meet people like those in the books I read and write about? Someone who actually wants to get to know me BEFORE they jump into bed with me? I'll just keep waiting for that man to come along, I can feel he's right around the corner!

-Jonez boo!

she got a mean shoe GAME!

If I have to fight someone to get these shoes then that's what I plan on doing! These Betsy Johnson shoes caught me be surprise, I usually dont do the ultra girly thing but I really like these shoes. They retail for about 150$ but they are as versatile as the little black dress.

Brotherly Love

Today I was feeling a lil like blah, and there wasnt a good reason for it. Except it was a nice day and I would have rather not come to work but oh wells. So maybe thirty minutes after I got here I got a phone call from my lil brother! It was such a surprise because usually he only calls on Saturday, but I had just seen him on Sunday. At first I thought somethin was wrong but it wasnt. He said he just wanted to speak to me. (AWWWWW) I was like boy, you make me feel special and thats supposed to MY job with you. It just shows how by doing something so small as a phone call he made me feel THAT much better.

Jonez

Oh P.S. I love you Zaya!

Sparks.

I've been thinking about getting a boyfriend but Im really content with being single. So anyway I was approached by a guy this past week, he was chocolate, average height, average looking and persistent. So we chitchatted for a while that night in person until it started to rain. So he's older, late 20's but there were NO Sparks. I mean I thought he was cool, I would def like to get to know him better but Im in no rush to become the next Mrs. He on the other hand felt/feels differently. Last night we were texting each other and he kept asking 'did I think about the night we were talking?', 'have I thought about him', and 'did I feel the connection to him as he did for me?'. Im like WHOA!! For someone who literally just met me, these questions were way too much. It was like asking, after the first date, if I wanted to marry him. Sometimes I wonder if Im being too hard, or not opened minded enough to date, but what could my response be to his questions? Say no I didnt feel a connection and possibly hurt his feelings or lie, say yes and give him false hope? I did a lil of both, I told him "I enjoyed our conversation and look forward to many more"... Not a total lie!

Tristan J

According to Jonez

Dear Jonez,
I'm thirteen but I don't have a boyfriend. I'm a freshmen in high school and I know I should focus on school but all the other girls have boyfriends. I'm not part of the in crowd but I'm not a total geek either. How do I get guys to notice me?
-High school Loner

Dear Sweetheart,
Your thirteen! Enjoy being young and innocent. You are just entering high school, this yr along with your junior year is what colleges look at so this is when you should be the most focused. You don't have to do anything specific to get noticed by a guy. It's when you start doing things that attracts the most attention and usually it's the wrong type. A high school reputation is one that most people will identify you and if it's not a good one, it's hard to shake. I'd rather be known for who I really am rather than who people assume I am. And so what if the other girls have boyfriends? One thing about growing up you'll learn is to follow your own path. Who cares what the other girls are doing? Does it means they are happy? Of course not. The appearances people paint are just that, paint! It's a facade they put on to seem like they have it all. Until you walked in their shoes nevermind what you think they have. All that glitters isn't Gold or even Gold coated.

-Jonez

Sent from my iPod

she got a mean shoe GAME!

These are the perfect shoes to attend a wedding in. Now I just have to find someone getting married this summer. I believe they retail at 324$ and come in a greyish color with lavender filled flower, Enjoy!